Why? Maybe I just need to re-shift my mind, stop thinking about women for a bit and just hibernate for the winter so I can focus on myself. I'm 37 years old, and I feel like I need a "new start". Disappointed with how my interactions with women have been thus far in my life. Yes, lately since I've been here has gotten WAY BETTER, but now I'm looking to get even better!

Most recent breakup with my LTR was 4 months ago and brought me here. Last couple of plates I've spun have been batshit crazy, so, maybe I'm just attracting the wrong kind of women, and need to change that by cleaning my mind, and focusing on becoming what I want to attract. I've banged tail for the plain fun of it lately, but it just feels.....like empty sex.

I still have a couple of potential plates I could be working on, but I don't feel like I have the will nor the energy. And quite frankly, none of the plates are anything to write home about. Yes, one is a really cool chick, fun to be around, but she's kinda heavy, and I'm really not into her like that (call me shallow, but I really need to have physical attraction). The other, well.... meh! Good lay, but that's it.

So far, these are the things I am thinking:

1) Closed Tinder account.

2) on day 6 of nofap

3) lift, workout like a madman, drop from 14% Body Fat to 12ish%. While increasing muscle mass, goal is to stay at 190lbs but cut. (I'm 6'3")

4) Keep reading! (Just finished Corey Wayne's book, NMMNG, The Rational Male and starting on the Art of Seduction. All while reading/posting here)

5) limit my drinking to a minimum - kinda hard when it's the holiday, and I'm going to Florida for a 5 day mini vacation. But come January, that shit may be gone for the month.

6) continue to strive at my job - that's one area I'm ok at, just continue.

7) work on taking higher risks with women (increasing the difficulty). I still have some AFC moments, and I need to clean that shit up! I realize that, but at least I'm awake now. Or does this even goes against what monk-mode is?

However (and this is where I need an opinion / advice); my caveat to all this is: if I get the opportunity for a plate (or more) while I'm not pursuing, I'm not going to pass out on it. Or again, is that against what monk-mode is?

Help a brotha' out with some insiders, have you gone through it? If so, what's your experience?