Next or not?

anooblol · 2015-12-02T23:56:57+00:00

"You're allowed to say no if you want.."

Don't say this. First, you're giving her too much power to decide (power they don't want). Second, it is telling her you're not confident she'll say yes.

Otherwise, if she already agreed go. My advice, give her a (extremely soft) soft next. After the date's done wait for her to initiate something. If she liked you, she will make at least some effort to contact you again. If she doesn't say something along the lines of "We should hang out again." within the next week. You've got your answer.

RiseAboveRuin · 2015-12-03T01:08:59+00:00

Your only mistake was telling her she's allowed to say no. She wouldn't have responded with inquiries if she wasn't interested in the first place. I don't agree that the interest level is low, I just think you need to improve upon your assertiveness via text.

You: "Let's go get frozen yogurt tonight."

Her: "When where who"

You: "Meet me at yogurt plus at 7, we'll go get drinks after 🙃"

You don't need to answer the who part, it's implied that it's just you. Come up with something to do afterwards before you get there to keep the night going. If you're 21+ I always go for margaritas and or pool/darts.

Emoji's are key, IMO, to off-setting the cockiness that accompanies assertiveness. Use them sparingly though, especially with 9's and 10's.

MattyAnon · 2015-12-03T00:45:51+00:00

Yes, you're over analysing things.

Also, when asked three questions (when where who), don't answer all three. Maintain your fucking mystery.

"when where who?" is mild interest, like "show me the plan". Don't worry about it. Proceed as if she's onboard. Answer with something like "Thursday, me and you".

Bear in mind.... frozen yoghurt isn't going to make her pussy twitch with anticipation about your devil-may-care attitude to danger you silver tongued lothario.

PS "You're allowed to say no if you want.." is retarded. In future say "And you're not allowed to say no or I'll come round personally and put frozen yoghurt down your bra". Remember you care nothing for rejection, you're too busy moving your life forward.

Rayjaysdick · 2015-12-03T00:06:23+00:00

"You're allowed to say no if you want.."

That is some beta shit right there. Do you value your time? Should she value your time?

DELETEYOURFACE · 2015-12-03T00:45:24+00:00

Your frame is wrong in the first place.

Don't ask her to go anywhere.

"I'm going to get frozen yogurt later, you should join me."

Always escalate. Don't be afraid to be forward. Beating around the bush only puts you closer to the dozens of other guys doing the same thing to the same chick.

She isn't saying anything out of the ordinary, you just aren't setting the pace. It is your male prerogative to initiate.

throw_em_all · 2015-12-03T21:34:34+00:00

"when where who?"

IMO this already tells you that a "date" is not her first though, so you as a sexual partner is definitely not her first option.

"You're allowed to say no if you want.."

If she wants out, she will find an excuse, don't give it to her. If any this type of "confrontation" should be done after she gives you the bullshit excuse, if you're confident in your game skills and want to force a meet up as a last resort.

"I didn't say no haha, always happy to hang"

Definitely not thinking of you as a sexual partner, doesn't mean it's not worth trying though.

FrameWalker · 2015-12-02T22:56:10+00:00

Yeah her interest level is low. In person use lots of kino and be moderately aggressive. Her texts are shit tests.

Who?

Me my mom, you and your sister.

Title	Next or not?
Author	keytoimmortality
Upvotes	5
Comments	18
Date	December 2, 2015 10:47 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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