oneitis is a bitch

fnordsnord · 2015-03-25T05:28:29+00:00

If you were my son I would smack you across the face. Again. Because you said you were shit again. Never tell people you are shit. Let THEM make that decision, don't make it for them.

You've got a number of issues going on here, but we'll start with the simplest one: she's not interested. You are not going to be able to raise her interest in an email and there is not time to reframe.

You've lost this one. The only thing you can get out of this is less pain. The more you chase after her, the more you get kicked in the balls. Go zero contact. No e-mail. No texts.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-03-25T07:25:08+00:00

You have "Scarcity Mentality". This is when a man is so starved for attention, that he jealously latches on to any woman who gives him attention and affection. Just like a dog that's starved for attention, you go to ridiculous lengths to try to keep that attention coming, because you don't feel like you're able to do any better. That, and you don't feel like you deserve better, because your skills are so weak.

Well, you're RIGHT! You don't deserve better, and you can't do any better. Not until you stop whining about your situation and fucking DO something about it.

"Abundance Mentality" is where it's at, and where you want to be. That's where a man either knows he has many options to pursue as far as women go, or he acts like he does. This is a concept where you can "fake it til you make it" in front of others to establish that you're not the loser that people think you are. Realize that there isn't "the one" out there for you - there are millions of women who you could be hooking up with - if you just put in the work and effort - like everybody else.

The only thing holding you back at this point IS YOU. You can cry about your situation, or you can fucking DO SOMETHING about it. Guess which one will give you the results you want? Hint: it isn't crying.

A key point of "Abundance Mentality" is that you don't "settle" for less than you deserve, as a man of value. This chick isn't worth your time - not anymore. You know your behavior toward her is toxic, so work on your behavior by ditching her. Start things right. The only person who can get you what you want in life is you, and if you want to be that suave motherfucker you envision in your mind, you have to fucking start acting like him.

No more pussy excuses. No more latching on to chicks. Read the sidebar materials, get in shape and do things for YOU. When you start becoming successful, women will come to you as a byproduct of that success. Don't make women your priority in life - YOU'RE THE PRIORITY. You are the main mission, and you have to stay on point. Any shitty behaviors or habits that inhibit your mission and your priorities need to go. Change, motherfucker! Because the alternative is remaining as you are - and you see how well that's been working out for you.

yoyoz69 · 2015-03-25T13:39:54+00:00

You will come at me for being a pussy for getting dejected and you are justified, but I feel distraught. Is this a case of when a woman thinks she accidentally fucked a beta? Is it because I couldnt fuck her properly (due to lack of practice I was shit)? I mean there is no reason why she cant meet me. Fuck this. I feel like crying and feel so helpless.

Why are you being so critical of yourself?

Stop viewing the world as a defeatist!

You met a cool girl, and got to fuck her!

Who cares if you didn't get a relationship or round two from her?

Stop focusing on what you don't have.

Focus on the experience you gained and move forward.

utopianaura · 2015-03-25T09:12:07+00:00

Before any of your did reply to me, I replied to the woman's email in my fit, not with much but with. "Okay - difficult to meet or dont want to?" Yes it does sound butt hurt, but my head state wasnt good and nothing to lose as I have lost her either way. She did reply back saying, "honestly, there is no time, and i dont trust you at all" Some of it does make sense considering I was practicing the "fake it till you make it" kind of thing, where I thought I had nothing interesting (loser mentality), I pretended to be from an exotic country, and also adopted a glamorous job of a secret agent. I must be alpha enough and smooth enough for her to still sleep with me, and she definitely was very much into it. When I last emailed her, I accidentally forgot to use my adopted name, and she got my real name. I still played it cool, and said yes thats my real name. She said you are an indian then (in a disgusting way), and she did mention that she hates indians and would never sleep with them. I declined that I was but my name did sound like one. Anyway, thats what i believe happened.

Title	oneitis is a bitch
Author	utopianaura
Upvotes	5
Comments	21
Date	March 25, 2015 4:36 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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