Been seeing one of my plates more seriously the last 4 months, still spinning other plates. She keeps pushing for a relationship now and I’ve been resistant because the way I see it is she’s the salesperson and needs to sell me on the idea of being exclusive with her and not seeing my other girls. She does quite a bit for me; massages, cooks for me, brings me food at work etc. But when we’ve done things like go out to a bar together, she does not act in a way I like. Flirting with other guys. The first time she did this I soft nexted and didn’t take her out when I went to the bar anymore, she worked her way back up so I gave her another shot at a night out. But the behaviour continued, now I’ve ended things completely and she’s messaging me wanting me back and asking what she did wrong. Do I even bother explaining it to her. To me it’s “if she doesn’t understand what she’s doing is wrong, there is no use explaining it because she won’t get it” plus as rollo says demonstrate don’t explicate. Thoughts?