Question about Models and NMMNG

BusterVadge · 2016-08-23T18:14:05+00:00

Much of NMMNG is geared toward men who are in a relationships. The key is not to be unemotional, but to be emotional when it matters, and to be emotional with those who deserve it.

There's a difference between being a sap who watches The Bachelorette and needs a tissue, and being a guy who says what needs to be said even if it can be painful.

Being somewhat emotional is not weakness, it's intimacy, and plates or female interests don't deserve this, only LTRs do.

corsega · 2016-08-23T15:39:07+00:00

I think it comes down to personal philosophy. I identify much more with Models, a lot of guys here don't.

I do think Mark is right that how you act determines which type of women you attract. Dark Triad doesn't always attract the most stable of women. Fun, but not necessarily stable.

If you're looking for something more serious, displaying emotion or beta traits is the way to go.

yellowmonkeyzx93 · 2016-08-23T15:57:11+00:00

Good question.. it's good you asked about it.

..but all of the literature on here seems to warn against becoming emotional.

That's too general. You think of it in binary. Either option A or option B. In life, it's never the case with either one extreme or the other (as I understand from your question.) Being too emotional will never work while suppressing our emotions will turn us into pressure bombs that will soon explode, We need a balance and to be adaptable.

Emotions are just that. They are what they are. It is how we use or master our emotions that determine whether they have good or bad consequences. Furthermore, no matter how much SMV you have, if you unable to display emotions that allow a woman to connect with you, women will avoid you. They need emotions like we need air to breathe.

I've finished reading NMMNG (not Models). One thing from NMMNG that I has resonated with me was that we as men have to be completely honest with ourselves first and foremost. In that sense, being always honest with your own emotions by yourself is essential to becoming a self-actualized man who gets what he wants.

So, if you enjoy playing football, photography, diving, art, martial arts or other passions, always have the freedom and courage to show your passion for it.

Although being genuine with your emotions makes you authentic as seen by others, it makes you predictable and thus exploitable. If you're too emotional, anyone especially women can exploit your weakness. Thus, there is a time and place when to show your emotions especially in public when people are watching.

Always remember..

"All the world's a stage, and we are merely players." ~ William Shakespeare

However, my point being.. when you are by yourself, be free to be yourself.

Shit tests do exist. Don't take everything you read from books as it is. Take what is relevant from each book and apply it accordingly to your life.

A friend told me this important point.. "that how we think people act, and people actually behave are completely different." Take it into consideration when reading through books. Ask yourself.. am I reading how you think people act or how people are actually behaving?

For instance, dark triad traits are just traits. Society gives it a negative image but so many people are doing it in reality. So what gives? What people say and what they do are different. More over, it is the intention that underlines the reason of usage for these traits that determines if our actions and its subsequent consequences are bad. Everything is just a tool. It's like a hammer. It can be used to build something or harm others.

Those are my thoughts.

Edit: Grammar and spelling

Edit 2: A very important point was added.

edwardhwhite · 2016-08-23T17:08:05+00:00

What he means by vulnerability is a willingness to get shot down. You are vulnerable, if only in a small way, when you approach. It is being strong enough and having enough abundance mentality to approach and walk away if shot down or the woman is not for you.

Metalgear222 · 2016-08-23T14:36:08+00:00

There's a sweet spot between being emotional and being stoic. Think of push pull when approaching. Something to draw them in that's emotional something to push away that's stoic.

Title	Question about Models and NMMNG
Author	swallowingthepill1
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Date	August 23, 2016 2:14 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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