I've been guilty of over-texting in the past and have definitely ruined my chances before with this bad, needy, habit. I've ended up as a text orbiter giving validation with conversation on a few occasions.
I think I'm starting to get the balance right but like a lot of the changes I'm making they feel counter intuitive and at times a little rude.
Here's a conversation from last night/this morning. Am I starting to hit the right note?
Just want to say I know one text conversation is a minor thing - but I find if my text game is off it tends to snowball into larger problems. Anyway here goes.
I hadn't text her for two days prior to this and I get this text late evening.
Her: 'Sup.'
Me: 'Recovering from this...' posts a video from rock concert I was at the night before
Her: 'Seems fun indeed.'
Me: 'I have bruises.'
Her: 'The sign of a good concert.'
Me: 'Good attitude.'
Her: 'I myself am good, thanks for asking.' (Sarcasm)
Me: 'It's not all about you (name).
Her: 'I'd like to think it's 50%.'
Me: 'More like 30%, I'm very high maintenance.'
Her: 'Hmmm...'
Went to bed at this point and didn't text back. The rest is from the next morning.
Me: 'You're so serious.'
Her: 'Yes and no.'
I don't reply, two hours pass.
Her: 'What does that even mean?'
That was now hours and ago and still haven't responded. I feel that this is about the right mix of bothering to respond, little bit of banter, short messages and hopefully drumming up a little bit of hamstering.
Thoughts?
EDIT#### - She has now triple texted me with no response.
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