Sexual issues

IronPlug · 2020-12-15T17:23:52+00:00

It happens, is mainly a mental game as a little bit of Alcohol(better to just overcome it sober of course) can calm the nerves and prevent it. You’ve gotta find out what you can/can’t last longer in also. Missionary tends to be a finishing move whereas doggy has me going forever so figure yours out.

Like the others said, Find out how to go down and finger the women and if you can get her off that way you’re good.

She doesn’t leave thinking “he made me cum 3 times with his hand and 0 times with his dick” she leaves thinking “he made me cum 3 times”

themostgianthorse · 2020-12-15T16:58:34+00:00

Your phrasing is interesting and may be indicative of your problem -

“Women have such high expectations of getting their brains pounded and I can’t deliver”.

How do you know what this particular one’s expectations are? And is it the same expectation all the time? These questions are rhetorical. Their answers are you probably don’t and no.

My LTR tells me she loves when I fuck her and loves when I (her words)”make love” to her. She says I can “read her”. Its not so much that I “read her” but that I LEAD her.

Sexual performance is a factor but the way you phrase the above makes me think your being too hard on yourself.

Avoiding sex and looking at porn as a substitute is going to compound your problem.

You need to get out of your head and remove expectations of yourself.

Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy?

This post reminds me of an excerpt from the book that says “Nice guys are bad receivers”. You sound like you focus so much on her perceived expectations that you don’t even enjoy the process.

Breathe. Get out of your head. Enjoy the process.

Metalgear222 · 2020-12-15T16:22:49+00:00

Try Kegel exercises, practice breathing when you fucking.

Its all mindset, I promise if you take care of your health to the fullest it will increase your stamina, not only physically but mentally. It all comes with time

benhurensohn · 2020-12-15T16:22:16+00:00

Did anyone ever have issues during sex?

No. No one ever had issues during sex

Jdamoftruth · 2020-12-15T17:05:08+00:00

I don’t know how to become great when women have such high expectations of getting their brains pounded and I can’t deliver

Most women don't have these expectations....the average duration of sex is 5-7 minutes....

That said to be all you can be, focus on fitness and slow the hell down if you are about to cum

Graphik0 · 2020-12-15T17:53:04+00:00

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Pen2When · 2020-12-15T19:42:49+00:00

Get good at eating pussy, eat that shit like it's your last meal and you'll be better than 90% of the other fellows out there.

Johnnyjakes1981 · 2020-12-15T19:48:28+00:00

Stop watching porn. It's an unrealistic expectation of sex. Porn should not become your barometer of performance. Okay, so maybe don't stop watching porn, but stop believing in the story they are telling you - Chad drilling Ashley for 40 minutes 6 different ways until he finally busts all over her. That scene was shot over hours and hours my friend. Yes, there are some guys who can do that, most cannot. Women I have banged and dated have conformed that they actually don't want to fuck for that long. Women get bored easily, you should know this. At most, 10-14 minutes, and focus on getting them off first....use foreplay to your advantage, Sex to women isn't just your dick inside her... it's everything. For her, make it an experience. Stop being so hard on yourself.

Secret_Twitch · 2020-12-15T16:47:48+00:00

Read the Sex God Method 2nd Edition. Stop jerking off and looking at porn altogether. Kegel exercises help with controlling your ejaculation and stamina. If you are cumming super quick because your dick is sensitive, buy a flesh light and practice edging. It's better than using your hand because your hand tends to choke that chicken way tighter than any pussy could. Learn how to eat pussy. I usually make a girl cum at least 3 times before she even ever sees my dick. At that point I am already a better lover than most she has ever experienced and I haven't even fucked her yet. When I do stick that thing in her, she doesn't even care what I do to her as long as it doesn't hurt.

2020-12-15T16:14:09+00:00

Finger bang them until they cum then fuck them. Use a vibrator as well to make them explode.

Has your dick size been an issue?

2020-12-15T19:36:03+00:00

5.75 bone pressed? either way your size doesn’t have much to do with it i would do kegels though

Watido408 · 2020-12-15T21:24:02+00:00

This was my issue 2-3 years ago. It was due to low testosterone & psychological issues... lift heavy 4-5x a week, eat clean, no fap & Semen retention, & cut off drugs

clicquot_ricquot · 2020-12-15T22:23:02+00:00

I was in the same boat as you for all of my 20’s. I just thought i was going to be a premature ejaculator for the rest of my life. I inadvertently fixed a year ago while i was fucking a plate on shrooms. I was having a bad trip but my dick was still hard and i fucked for 30 mins straight and made my plate cum multiple times. Havemt had that problem since.

That pretty much confirmed to me that the whole time this problem was in my head and it wasnt an acutal problem. Not telling you to do shrooms because the bad trip sucked but what i am relling you to do is to get out of your own head and care less. Make sure that youre having fun too; who gives a fuck what she wants.

Theres also no problem with stopping during sex to collect yourself, for some reason i would never do that before.

zitandspit99 · 2020-12-16T10:39:39+00:00

Bro why did you post your size and girth 😂

But to answer your question, had the same problem too. I stopped watching porn and after 3 months I was vastly improved. Also, it's a mental thing - the more turned on the easier it'll be to get hard again.

Finally, I will say weed helps me a lot for my stamina and general horniness. Could use that once in a while

Title	Sexual issues
Author	jamesmonroeprez
Upvotes	9
Comments	28
Date	December 15, 2020 4:11 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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