Should I pay for her?

secret_barber · 2014-12-28T04:42:14+00:00

There really is too much emphasis put on who pays for the date, in this sub. I've paid and I've split and I've seen no impact on my level of (positive) success. Maybe someone can point me toward a write up on why it matters.

Now, the bigger problem you're facing is the fact that you are going on a lunch date because "she wants to hangout." Your wording makes it sound like she asked you to join her for lunch. She set the frame and you didn't get clarification. Therefore, who knows WTF this is. Most likely, it's just friends having lunch.

You need to figure out exactly what you want out of this event.

apskidb · 2014-12-28T15:42:32+00:00

Not paying or at least showing that you're not some punk that she can free-ride will pay dividends and best/worst case will help you filter out the gold-diggers. If you end up splitting or paying, it doesn't matter. But by bringing it up you'll be able to judge her character and decide for yourself if she's worth it.

[deleted] · 2014-12-28T04:08:52+00:00

Do not pay for her. Not for the first couple of dates at least, or until you've had sex.

rebuildingMyself · 2014-12-28T10:55:20+00:00

First date shouldn't be more than something like drinks or coffee somewhere. Paying for that isn't a big deal. If she cunts out about it not being somewhere more expensive, there's your answer as to what she's really looking for.

ThorsdaySaturnday · 2014-12-28T04:18:05+00:00

I fully expect to be downvoted for my response here, but whatever. I see nothing wrong with paying for her if you like her. A traditional girl will expect a gentleman to pay for her on a first date. Just don't take her anywhere expensive on a first date, as she hasn't earned it yet. And if she likes you and isn't an asshole, she'll offer to pay on the second or third date. Source: lady here, SO of 4 years paid for me on our first date (as he should) and I gladly pick up the tab half the time we go out

Title	Should I pay for her?
Author	Crocodille
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	December 28, 2014 3:25 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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