Shy girl?

BrunoOh · 2014-11-13T11:40:16+00:00

Honestly, I'd just advise going blue pill for a while. It sounds like she desperately needs comfort and some validation.

TimPartendale · 2014-11-13T12:03:38+00:00

give up man, her self esteem is flat lined it would take way too much effort on your part to boast it up before you would even get anywhere and then you would have a stage 5 clinger who will be hard to get rid of later.

vandaalen · 2014-11-13T12:33:00+00:00

My personal opinion is to stay away from her. She's crazy and you should never stick your dick in crazy. It has the potential to fuck you up badly, since you do not know if you are just unaware of other mental problems she has.

If you however can't resist, I would treat her exactly as any other woman, but a little bit lighter. She's most likely got no bitch shields that you need to break down.

However she is used to be treated like a fragile piece of glass by other people and I would refuse to do so. You want to act different than other men towards her.

'I don't think I'm worth the time or effort, it's easier to not talk to people and for me to be alone'

That's just plain fishing for validation. Don't give in. Also what's her problem here? Isn't she worthy, or is she too lazy to get out of her comfort zone. You have to call her out on shit like this.

You need to be very cautious not to become her orbiting therapist and mental dumpster. Chicks like this tend to trigger our altruistic protector side and you want to avoid this at any cost. They know about this and they can play that fiddle. I've fallen into that trap much too often.

I told her 'No, it's not. You don't want to not live life' to which she said 'I know but I can't do it I'm too shy' to which I pushed a little further and said 'Sure you can' and we ended on the 'I don't know'

This is exactly that kind of behaviour. Just don't take all of this serious and remember that attraction isn't negotiable. Either she wants you, or she doesn't. Period.

Don't try to persuade her, that shit doesn't work.

Come to terms with the fact, that you want sex from her and act accordingly. Although she's shy, she's still a woman, and just in case you forgot: AWALT.

mister_barfly75 · 2014-11-13T11:43:55+00:00

Ask again and then drop it. If she's that shy and awkward, though, I wouldn't expect any kind of enthralling interaction if she says yes.

SkorchZang · 2014-11-13T17:22:33+00:00

If you like her, I'd keep teasing her to go out. That's basically what she really wants to happen in the bottomless pit of her damaged soul. Obviously keep a look out at all times for the cray-cray outbreaks and be ready to eject fast.

Here's what you can do, instead of "going out", which she likely imagines as some kind of big deal where she gets dressy and you take her to expensive dinner, tell her (not ask) that a specific night you're going to the arcade/the park to picnic/the whatever you want to do with her, and then tell her "and you're coming with me, so be ready."

She's likely going to give you weak resistance, so you say "aww come on, it's not even a big deal, you giant chicken. Meet you outside your building 7pm and we'll go."

So you do not break down explaining to her how she's SO worth it, no lectures about how she needs to live her life, you just brush it all aside with a smirk and make the meeting happen, therefore acting like a man. She will fall in line with that if she's into you, because you're taking her where she wants to go in the first place.

akaipill · 2014-11-13T17:44:45+00:00

If you really like her, you'll impact her life in a such a way that she'll be the perfect partner for you.

Introverts are FAR more likely to be unicorns, with proper guidance on your part.

If you're just after some poon, move along.

If your SMV and frame control is good enough, you can still get some side chicks if you so choose.

Popcornelius · 2014-11-14T04:22:59+00:00

if she is attractive AND a shut in, my first thought is mental illness

edit: or some emotional trauma.

if she's fine, I would say go for it, but you might not know for sure for a long time

Title	Shy girl?
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Date	November 13, 2014 11:28 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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