Social Anxiety

rambler429 · 2019-01-24T03:23:27+00:00

Do the thing that causes you problems. It's just that simple. There's no magic formula.

If you suck at something, do more of it until you don't suck. The anxiety will go away.

EZemm · 2019-01-24T04:26:15+00:00

I suggest you to read "the shyness and social anxiety system", by Sean Cooper.

BrodinsOats · 2019-01-24T06:13:48+00:00

If you smoke weed, quit. This was a big factor for me (even when I wasn’t high).

mrmaldoror · 2019-01-24T03:22:49+00:00

Practise makes perfect.

I like classic literature so several years back I started grabbing some poets that I liked, walked to the park and read them out aloud in a secluded area of the park.

Strengthened my voice, increased my vocabulary and improved my enunciation.

As I got more confident, I just read closer and closer to pathways. Until little old ladies would stop on occasion and listen in for a while. Now I can do it almost anywhere, even read a poem to a random bucks party once, had 30 dudes throwing flowers at me.

I also want to be in CEO roles later in my life so it really propelled me to get out there and practise.

troutmask96 · 2019-01-24T05:20:51+00:00

Go get a script for Propranolol and you'll never have an issue with public speaking again.

https://www.drugs.com/comments/propranolol/for-performance-anxiety.html

masterpiece00 · 2019-01-24T07:38:14+00:00

lol man - You need to go to a doctor and other specialists, not ask for advice from a forum of socially inept men reading about sexual strategy and how to fuck Stacey.

masteryido · 2019-01-24T06:46:35+00:00

Is it physical anxiety or mental? Do you get physical symptoms or is it a psychological thing?

demhashie · 2019-01-24T08:09:55+00:00

Happens to me all the time before i say a presentation

SmamelessMe · 2019-01-24T10:51:31+00:00

Anxiety is preoccupation with future. In other words, your anxiety is the fear of how people will react to you, and what impact it will have on their opinion and relationship with you. Because that will impact your future.

The only cure is to git gud, scrub. Nobody would dare to call someone learning to ride a bike weak, because they are afraid of falling down. And they definitely would not send them to learn how to ride a bike on Tour de France.

The same principle applies. Your social skills suck. Because they suck, you're afraid of failure. Because failure will have negative impact on your future (more on that later).

This leads nicely into a circular logic.

Because the fear of failure you avoid social interaction, making you even worse at social interaction, making you even more anxious, making you even more avoidant of social interaction, making your social skills even worse, making you even more anxious... you get the idea.

So what do you do? What would you do when learning how to bike? Go to Tour de France and fake it till you make it? That's one way to learn for sure. But perhaps you should find an empty road or parking lot, and try there.

Same goes for your social skills. Start small. Don't go to the loudest, most expensive club in town to learn how to talk to people. Try to consciously "sharpen the axe" with your existing friends. Think about how you interact with them, and what impact it has on them. Take baby steps. Hold eye contact. Learn how to tell an engaging story. Learn how to fail graciously. It is the most important thing to learn in any skill ever. When you see you have nothing more to try in context of close social interactions, branch out and try more public interactions. Say, going alone to a bar. You know, the place where solo people go to meet new people.

The mindset you should take is that even though failure can have negative impact on your social status (and in extension your future), you can virtually eliminate the risk by acquiring skill.

Recommended first step: do a thorough research on how to improve social skills. Don't know how? Here are 709,000,000 hints. If I can recommend a good starting point, it would be this video. Or this one.

Casd12 · 2019-01-24T19:43:39+00:00

social anxiety is just being nervous all the time. Why are people nervous? Because they are inexperienced. So start getting more experience, do shit

Title	Social Anxiety
Author	0pportunisticc
Upvotes	10
Comments	20
Date	January 24, 2019 3:18 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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