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Someone I soft-nexted started texting me again. What to do?

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January 1, 2015
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Title Someone I soft-nexted started texting me again. What to do?
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Upvotes 4
Comments 13
Date January 1, 2015 11:14 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2r1o0x/someone_i_softnexted_started_texting_me_again/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/someone-i-soft-nexted-started-texting-me-again.192707
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[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

That just means she wants your dick again. If I similarly wanted to fuck her some more, I'd respond being all cheery, like nothing ever happened, invite her to your place to "make dinner" or "have drinks". If you can't care less and/or too busy for her right now, then just ignore the messages.

Wouldn't bother with the whole "going out again" theme, you already fucked this girl before. There's no need to meet up in public "confirming" you're not an axe murderer.

[–]RiseAboveRuin1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Spot on. Exactly what I'd do.

[–]JohnnyZX3 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Thanks for the advice guys. I will try to sleep with her again. TRP has opened up my mind, but I'm still learning. Applying is more difficult than just knowing.

[–]Steve_Wiener0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck her again. Guess things didn't work out w the ex, or shes done with him, and now back to you.

[–]Endorsed Contributorfnordsnord0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She had something better. It didn't pan out, or ran dry. She's announcing that she's available. Pursue again.

[–]Luckyluke230 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

what the fuck is soft- nexted?

i though you next a girl and that was that?!

[–]weaseldude1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Soft nexting is not initiating contact, but if she initiates you respond.

You're thinking of hard nexting, where you never speak to her again.

[–]Luckyluke230 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

thanks for the lesson, didn't even know i could do that lol :P

[–]rebuildingMyself0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The ex bf thing came and went (or never happened). Now she's looking for a backup validation battery. Spin her some more if you like but do it after getting another plate or two

[–]Just_for_boobs1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Come to my place on X at Y and find out.

[–]gideonrakthor 0 points0 points0 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

You fucked up somewhere, and she decided to get you to be an orbiter, maybe a BB LTR.

(If you maintained perfect frame and an AF attitude, she wouldn't have brought it up/you should have quelled it at that moment saying something like, "You're right, I'm just a sex-hungry caveman. Committing would be a bad idea.")

After you stopped contact, she was probably confused. She's just trying to open but she will probably try to get you to supplicate to her again very soon. Limit your texts to meetups and let her know clearly your interests in her, and what they aren't.

She'll temporarily move you back to the AF list if you do it right.

[–]1HS-Thompson4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago [recovered] (0 children) | Copy Link

I disagree with this post. Plates drop all the time, it's part of the game and why the euphemism for them is "spinning plates" in the first place.

There's no reason to think the OP did anything wrong. And plates cycling in and out as they get in and out of other relationships is normal. The correct thing for the OP to do is fuck her if he feels like it and ignore if not.

[–]masterrod-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Why are you listening to her so much?

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