Suicidal thoughts and depression

g4casting · 2018-01-02T08:22:11+00:00

I've been there dude. What worked for me was a change of environment. I essentially did a fresh start. Moved across the world, went travelling, made new friends, tried new things. Renewed my appetite for life. In my old life I felt like a loser and I felt trapped in that frame. I just decided to break the frame instead of breaking myself. I won't say more than that, you need to act now.

185poundsofhatredWIP · 2018-01-02T13:42:22+00:00

If I was you and had some spare money to spend, I'd try some nootropics. Never go the ssri+blue pill hag therapist route.

Get your diet in check. Eat your damn veggies. Try interminent fasting. Lift.

Tidy up your place. The worst thing you can do to yourself is waking up in a messy room with the blinds shut and with a dirty feeling on your palm cause you jacked off at 2AM.

Throwawaysteve123456 · 2018-01-02T07:18:28+00:00

Man, please get help. I'm usually a major asshole, but I have a soft spot for this shit. When you have a male who considers suicide, it is much more serious than a female, whom often engages in attention seeking. Furthermore, when you consider the lack of reaching out, you on paper are a remarkably high risk for suicide based on these two variables alone.

Depression is treatable, in fact, it's remarkably treatable. There are dozens of treatment, with the first few lines having minimal side effects. Tons of therapy options. Suicide is not treatable. You wouldn't give up on your life if diagnosed with cancer, if you hadn't tried any treatments first, right? So use the same logic for mental health. Go get some help, talk to a professional, and maybe avoid online forums for shit like this. Not the best place to get advice.

You may not have a plan now, but when the shit hits the fan, it may not take much. Get... Help...

vandaalen · 2018-01-02T12:18:52+00:00

Have you ruled out all physical conditions like hormonal problems already?

Psychocist · 2018-01-02T17:09:22+00:00

I've been there, too.

I remember the night before I first went to a therapist. I'd not had sex in 5 years, I was struggling to stay motivated with my freelancing, was coming out of a few years of isolation and now living with a mate.

I used to live next to a very busy road and trucks driving past would often rumble the house, which made it difficult to sleep. I remember fantasising very vividly about walking out of my front door and into the road. These trucks were going downhill at a good 40mph and there would be no way they could stop in time.

That's when I realised how close I was to killing myself. And the day after I went hunting for a free consultation with a therapist. I couldn't actually start therapy for 6 months due to funds, but when I was able, I started and I kept it going every couple of weeks for 2 years. From CBT to ACT (acceptance commitment therapy).

Here's the thing - my life is drastically better. I live in a great country, warm every day, have a gorgeous condo, plenty of women in my life.. and yet the other day I thought how I might jump off the balcony and how quickly it could all end. Fact is, the original idea was to move far away from family so when I do kill myself they have at least had an opportunity to distance themselves from me first and get used to my absence. But then I got here and was back on freelancing and had freedom away from a job and the last thing I'm going to do is off myself now.

However, maybe I will. It's my life and I'll choose to do what the fuck I want with it.

Depression can take a long time to get over, and suicidal ideation is just that - ideation! One thing that has helped me tremendously is understanding that these feelings come and go. Sure, maybe this second I feel like ending it all, but in 10 minutes I might feel like getting some food, maybe watching something or going to the gym, working on my hobbies or texting that chick back, or reading a book or whatever - any number of things I find interesting and exciting.

In ACT, it is advised you accept your current state, and then you commit to moving towards your values. For example, if you value education, despite how depressed you are, instead of avoiding acting on your value, move towards it and pick up a book and read for 10 minutes. That can give your life enough purpose and progress to get yourself out of this funk.

In the end though you just have to accept that maybe these thoughts will run around your mind for the rest of your life, and you simply have to learn how to disregard them -- they are just thoughts. You don't have to listen.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. The temporary problem is that you don't think you can handle the difficulties of life. You can. In the middle of my treatment, I found my mum dead in her flat, stiff as a board on the couch. Completely out of the blue. The fact I came out of that (happened over a year ago) and am actually happier than I've been in years is a testament to just how resilient we can be. Believe me, you can handle much more than you give yourself credit for.

bluepillcarl · 2018-01-02T09:14:12+00:00

All your problems in life are a lot more fixable than death. Just remember how gifted you really are. Some people are born in war torn places in extreme poverty with horrible diseases. You won the lottery and didn't even know it.

[deleted] · 2018-01-02T15:11:05+00:00

If any type of suicide is on your mind; seek psychiatric help. Find an affordable insurance plan and contact a doctor. Most men are told to man up and swallow the pity; up unto the point where they actually commit the act. Trust me man; the doctors are there to help.

tylerpkeaton · 2018-01-02T21:14:51+00:00

Hey man. I have had to deal with one of my parents for the last year or so...I know how awful it can be. Here's my advice (it is not professional advice so please take it just as my opinion) If I were you, I would first of all try and cut out the things that are NOT helping you (weed and alcohol) Someone with depression needs to be feeding their body only good things. Its hard enough dealing with these things without throwing them into the mix. I know its easier said than done, but cut down those things as much as possible.

Next is physical activity. It has been proven that exercise helps stimulate positive emotions in the brain. Use whatever money you normally would spend on weed/alcohol and get a gym membership. Lift, run, swim, do whatever you need to get your body moving.

Seek professional help. I have a friend whos mom is a psychologist and she told me once that 99% of the people she see's with major mental health problems get better with counselling. So always keep that as an option.

Someone said something on here that is very important, and that is that whatever extremely negative emotion you are feeling is TEMPORARY. Think of your negative emotions as currents or wind, they come on strong one minute and the next they are gone.

Finally, once you're feeding your body good things (diet), start feeding your brain good things. Cut out any negative TV shows you watch, and cut off any friends who are constantly negative. Even if you're not religious, watch Joel Osteen. He will get your mind thinking the right way. If you can- go find the book "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale. It was published in 1952, but is still an amazing read and can still be applied to your life in 2018.

It will be a great year for you...stay positive.

Title	Suicidal thoughts and depression
Author	BeijingTurkey
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Date	January 2, 2018 7:03 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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