Started seeing this girl, things moved very quickly between the two of us right from the get go. I sort of knew from the very beginning because of how quickly she was moving things along that something was amiss. Whatever, I'm dating other girls so I don't have that much investment in her. As I would find out later, she was secretly seeing an ex for a while and really stopped seeing him a few days before we met.

The whole time things were going great, about 4 or 5 really cute dates, and a lot of chemistry between the two of us. She even told me this week that I don't message her enough so I know I'm not smothering her. A week ago she tells me she deleted all the dating apps and has no interest in anyone else. On Friday night she told me she couldn't wait to see me and cuddle with me and even invited me over the night before but I was at baseball. Saturday morning she wakes up and tells me she can't wait to see me, and sends some flirty messages. I respond with something equally flirty, and tell her I'll pick her up at 7:30. 4 hours go by and I'm hit with a jaw-dropping response.

She has feelings for someone else and needs time to think (an ex she had recently run into at a party the week before -- she has told me this had upset her when I saw her the next day). I'm like okay whatever, give her a call just to clarify and tell her this means we can't talk and to come around when she's ready. She says she really likes me and that she thinks she needs a week to clear her head. She told me if she comes around in longer than that and I'm seeing someone else that it's her screw up. I say okay, "take care", and she says "take care is what she said to her ex, and it wasn't appropriate in this context"?? I message her later that day and tell her that I went through a similar situation and really hurt someone so I appreciate her honesty. She tells me that she is being totally honest and that she's not dating someone else. Apologizes for being hot and cold with me. I then tell her I thinks she'll last 3 days without speaking to me. 4 days top. She responds saying "be cuter". I respond saying to have a good night.

My gut tells me I'm the rebound (something I would have known from the start had I known her "breakup" was only a few days before, but it is really confusing for her to do a total 180 sooo quickly. Thoughts? Did I handle it okay? I think the best thing I can do is not contact her whatsoever. And just to clarify, I wouldn't put it past her to still be seeing the ex even if he is in a relationship.