Tendency to always smile

iloveyoudeft · 2019-05-24T06:10:43+00:00

smiling is great, who gives a shit. if it makes you more fun to be around that's a good thing. dont overthink things, go off instinct. if it makes you more approachable that also makes you more attractive.

mrmaldoror · 2019-05-24T04:50:22+00:00

I'm in the same boat. Nervous smile and laughter.

I thought I should fix it for the same reasons.

Then I decided not to because IDGAF.

Now everyone has a hard time gauging how I'm feeling because I'm always smiling and I use it to my advantage.

AWorseManThanYou · 2019-05-24T07:24:58+00:00

Yes, it’s a tendency to seem friendly. And yes, it’s a sign of insecurity. But NO, smiling isn’t bad. Judicious smiling is important.

Smiling seems friendly. That’s good and that’s it’s purpose. You should smile as you give any backhanded compliment or even an insult. In most cases you want to check someone while leaving them wondering if it’s negative connotations is solely in their head. A subtle mind game that I 100% promise you most of the experienced guys do.

Smiling is fine, but reflexively smiling suggests you are insecure about how what you said will be taken. There’s nothing wrong with saying something derogatory in the right circumstances and I use it to socially check someone who steps on my toes and when I give a neg.

Save your quiet smiles for those moments, but remember that there is nothing wrong with smiling in general (just the way that you are doing it).

Being alpha means people want to flock to you and experience your presence. Smiling (and getting them to smile) is an important part of social mastery.

My prescription: go a week only smiling and laughing at jokes. Go a week insulting people subtly and smiling. (“Damn, that’s a weird haircut.” *smile including your eyes) Go a week living a normal life without overthinking smiling.

GirTheRobot · 2019-05-24T06:19:09+00:00

Dude smiling is awesome. Ever been around a person who's naturally smiling all the time? It's very attractive. You can be that person. As long as it's a genuine smile. Look into genuine vs disingenuous

goomerall3 · 2019-05-24T07:58:48+00:00

Guys are not expected to smile a lot. Just keep that in mind. It looks weird and even creepy if you do it too often.

laurcrv · 2019-05-24T06:10:39+00:00

I stopped smiling so much for other reason, I'm fairly low body fat and my smile lines(or nasofabial folds) look rather pronounced because of the overdeveloped muscle and tbh I feel a little more confident as well now when talking because I don't constantly smile and my speech seems smoother

Title	Tendency to always smile
Author	polarizingpotato
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	May 24, 2019 4:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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