Texting - The Losing Game

tits_out_forTheBoys · 2015-09-29T16:10:46+00:00

Don't follow any sort of script. There is, however, a guideline that I follow:

For younger girls (<23), feign Alpha.
For post-grad girls who have yet to hit the Wall (23<X<30), feign the friendly beta with occasional touch of confident Alpha asshole.
For post-Wall girls, don't text em just hit it and quit it.

The reasoning here is that college girls tend to fully embrace being a slut because it's "their time" to be a slut and ride the carousel. Post-grad girls, however, hate to think of themselves as sluts so you gotta feign some beta until you finally rail them, after which feel free to shift gears to full-blown Alpha.

Alpha, beta, Alpha. Know when to feign each one when you communicate with women and you'll be the iron chef of pounding vag. Most bros try to come off as Alpha 100% of the time and then wonder why they're rarely able to close. The reason why is because when you take that route, women view it as an ego defense because "a strong man knows how to be sensitive." Bullshit, yes, but also very applicable if you want your texting game to be successful.

tl;dr Avoid overgaming post-college sluts. Instead: Pose as a beta, but work as an Alpha.

1NV0K3R · 2015-09-29T13:44:25+00:00

1) I call immediately after I get it. This has led to some hilarious moments where the girl gave me a fake number and she gets called out.

2) No, I type normally on my phone, but I use my same speech pattern/dialect (aka I type like I talk)

3) I'll tease/joke to build initial interest, then logistics.

4) I don't.

Edit: To elaborate on /u/SpaceCrunc, everyone has a different Frame/SMV. Some can get away with things others cannot. You have to establish what your frame is.

Pkbeefatude · 2015-09-29T16:38:10+00:00

Its hard to say, texting too much is obviously a death-nell but I find it practically impossible to know when too much is too much for a girl.

Texting has non context clues, no body language, no tone. There is nothing for you to go off of.

Try to keep it as little as possible between initial talk and date, otherwise you'll have nothing to talk about on the date. I've even said this to girls before because they wanted to " get to know me" before going on a date, which is absolutely retarded.

Try to be funny, I've had success being sexually aggressive and massive failure, I've had a line work multiple times just to see it fail several times in a row a few weeks later.

Honestly texting is the worst lol! Do the best you can, escalate to actual face to face meet ASAP and if she stops talking to you she most likely just isn't interested. For some reason that's what they do instead of saying "I'm not interested"

if you get the drop dead you are probably fucked, you can try waiting a few days and testing the waters by sending something funny but I've only managed to turn that one around a few times. Usually you've been nexted.

fnordsnord · 2015-09-29T15:12:34+00:00

Immediately - To "make sure there wasn't a typo." (Checking for a fake number). But THEN 1 to 3 days.
I text like a grown up. You know - with complete sentences and I spell as though I graduated high school.
Maybe some light teasing or flirting. But in the text arena the advantage is ALL her. Text is for logistics. In person is for Game.
I don't. If she's into you, she won't fade. If she fades, it means she wasn't into you. And there are more, little brother, there are more.

RocketManV · 2015-09-29T16:17:46+00:00

I don't text much. Instead, I just give them a call when I want to talk to them. It's surprisingly easy to get a chick laughing over the phone, so I think it's a much better way to build a little rapport wore seeing a date up, with the least likelihood of fallout.

nemaxofredpill · 2015-09-29T17:46:47+00:00

Don't text. Call, set a date, and then you have to go because you are a busy badass man. Texting is for girls.

DarkisKnight · 2015-09-29T20:37:46+00:00

I find texting annoying...sometimes I just make a fucking phone call. Girls have responded well to this since it's so out of the usual. They may have a few guys texting them but when you call you stand out.

jeezydasnowman · 2015-09-29T22:03:33+00:00

Generic text guide: I use this with girls I meet online. In real life I'm immediately skipping to texting an opportunity to meet then getting logistics during the meetup.

Hey its x what u doin

Hey nmu

Nm working then going to x

[Irrelevant]

What are you looking for

Friends, fun, LTR, someone cool, etc.

Good I do [hobbies] so we should get along. I live at x. Are u close?

Yes / No

Do you live alone?

Yes / no but I'm not a slut

I'm not that easy. Are you calling me slutty?

[Backpedal]

It's OK. I'm doing x at x at x tomorrow night, need a ride or see u there?

SpaceCrunch · 2015-09-29T14:14:11+00:00

There are no rules. /r/asktrp is full of posts asking for rules. You are the main character in your realm. You define the rules for yourselves.

Think about the people posting on TRP. There is no proof that what someone posts is actually true, or that the poster is any type of authority.

It is fun for people on the Internet to portray themselves as alpha sex gods, but it is important to remember that the manosphere is also a massive echo chamber fraught with fallacy. This is just like any other online community.

Just do your own thing bro, always seekng incremental and consistent improvement.

gqtrees · 2015-09-29T13:58:25+00:00

I have had problems with this too..while some say keep texting to logistics only, i have seen posts by others regarding building rapport and stuff...not sure when to use what...

Title	Texting - The Losing Game
Author	TeflonDon3000
Upvotes	14
Comments	22
Date	September 29, 2015 1:26 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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