This shit has to stop

Stayinghereforreal · 2014-11-04T02:14:46+00:00

What are some shock changes I can make effective immediately on this relationship

Find a new girlfriend who is into having sex with you; your current one isn't.

4mrkite · 2014-11-04T02:35:28+00:00

If you're really bent on keeping this relationship for whatever reason, then you need to start running dread game.

It also sounds like you don't have much of a frame. The simplest way I found to immediately throw a woman off is to talk less. When you do talk, don't explain yourself. Don't get baited into arguments. Read up on Stoicism. It won't fix your problem but it will buy you time to build frame.

If you're not, then leave. Work on yourself with no distractions.

youcantdenythat · 2014-11-04T02:19:54+00:00

There is a very small chance this will work, but tell her that "we need to talk." Do this while at work/school so she has to wait awhile, aka, dread game.

When you finally get to the talk, carefully and calmly explain your issues and how you feel things need to change. If she listens, tries to understand, and shows that she is putting effort into these changes then keep her around.

If she argues, puts you down, talks to you disrespectfully, or trys to manipulate you by crying, then break it off and move on!

slcjosh · 2014-11-04T03:55:45+00:00

Break up with her. She sounds terrible. If not, read up on dread game.

sokolske · 2014-11-04T04:18:31+00:00

She notices your change and She is being greedy, she knows you can do better, and probably will.

So she is going to destroy you mentally, to make you perceive her as the best and that you will never do better.

arxdit · 2014-11-04T07:43:09+00:00

The fact that she says you're a "near perfect" boyfriend indicates to me that you're WAY too nice to her. aka beta, or BP, or whatever you like to call it -- but I like to call it "she got you by the nuts". (I can see where this is going -- oh baby you're too good for me! I don't deserve you!!! we have to split)

What you can do is start saying NO to her shit, and stand your ground. And make sure she knows that you WILL walk away. Just try and disappear for a day or two (and I mean disappear -- like the police can't even find you, shut your phone off, sleep somewhere 30 miles away, you get the drift I hope)

stillnoturday · 2014-11-04T10:30:18+00:00

If she says "you're the perfect boyfriend" let me just translate this for you "you are my bitch, and I can get you to do anything". Now armed with that information she has lost respect for you, you need to run dread or the better solution MOVE ON.

Title	This shit has to stop
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Comments	16
Date	November 4, 2014 2:07 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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