Thugs and verbal aggression

FereallyRed · 2019-06-29T10:45:09+00:00

Would you have paid any attention to an old homeless dude lying on the sidewalk muttering the same shit?

Nope, you'd recognize he was of no consequence to your life and moved on.

If something is outside your frame, you and only you make the decision whether you let that into your frame.

Your choice.

Laugh and get on with your day.

Or call the cops.

Or kick the shit out of him the second he gets in your face.

Or pepperspray his face.

Or act like he simply doesn't exist.

Or walk away.

Frame control.

Granite_Pill · 2019-06-29T12:34:33+00:00

You shouldn't stop being scared. You should have a healthy level of fear to help prevent you from doing something stupid. Don't engage with crazy people or thugs. Nothing good can come of it. People out there are crazy. You don't know what they've been through or what they are capable of. They could be on drugs which prevent them from feeling pain and/or improve their athletic performance. They could be an ex-con with years of wigsplitting experience. They could be a front line infantry veteran trained to kill in a myriad of ways. With as popular as MMA is these days, they could be good at fighting/MMA. They could be armed with a deadly weapon. They could just be a psycho. They could have nothing to lose. Whereas, you have everything to lose.

Be aware of your surroundings at all times and don't attract attention to yourself. Hold frame. Don't act scared. Just leave the area. Take boxing, kickboxing, muy thai. Jiu-jitsu is good too, but try not to go to the ground in a street fight, nothing good happens there. Always carry a knife. It's useful for many things besides stabbing. Get a pistol and conceal carry permit.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-06-29T13:59:21+00:00

"I didn't hear it at first but he repeated it and I responded "the girl" "

Why did u even acknowledge him?

warburgio · 2019-06-29T10:13:29+00:00

Dont engage, when he still unprovoked comes at you make sure you make some damage as quickly as possible- there is not telling with such an crazy angry person whats he gonna do to you when youre down. Running is always a smart option. Thumbs in eyes as well. You can start training smth, carry an improvised weapon (that wouldnt be suspicious to have when dealing with cops, like a sharp pencil, or a 'lucky' golf ball in one pocket and a 'spare ' sock in the other. If you get into enough sparrings or real fights you dont get that scare feeling anymore, you get adrenaline rush still but its more on a calm side. Lift, get stronger, if u want to feel more sure in these kind of situation go and train some krav maga, boxing, mma - smth that has tonnes of sparring.

From the mental point of view dont get railed. Stay calm, the only reaction you can have 100% influence on is yours. Read some stoics.

Bedtimeshine · 2019-06-29T13:09:08+00:00

You shouldn’t have done shit in your position. But it is time to start lifting weights and learning how to fight. The first time you get blasted in the face and realize you’re not made of glass is liberating.

flgeo7 · 2019-06-29T13:39:26+00:00

A lot of the time they’re all talk. Even if he came down he probably was just gonna talk all sorts of shit to your face but not lay a finger on you. It wouldn’t be in his best interest either considering it was 5v1. I wouldn’t have even responded to him in that situation, but that’s just me.

BurnoutRS · 2019-06-29T15:34:19+00:00

You sure he was a thug? You sure he was challenging/threatening you? Most of you people in this sub are so fret and frail you would interpret just about any situation in the streets as some type of threat or situation to fear. He might’ve just lived in the building and was trying to talk to you.

burrrahhh · 2019-06-29T10:16:25+00:00

Should have beat him up, you were five guys there.

Jugurthajones87 · 2019-06-29T15:01:09+00:00

“Who else would he talk to.”

“Sure as hell not you, faggot.”

NeedRealityShock · 2019-06-29T15:17:07+00:00

Ignore him from the start when he yelled at me?

This is what I would do

How can I stop being scared of people that grew up in the streets?

I think this is a justified fear

cakefmateus · 2019-06-29T15:46:34+00:00

You did right, you never know who this guy is or his connections. A fight might be a one time thing or can make your life hell after, if he was from a gang he could fuck you guys up with his friends after.

Be careful, learn how to fight and only fight when there's no other way around. No pussy, no situation and almost no person is worth a fight.

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2019-06-29T15:53:10+00:00

.#1 DON'T REACT

.#2 - FUCK FRAME BULLSHIT - You are right - he could hae a knife - it's neer worth getting in a fight - you could end up stabbed - just moe on

RedPill2018 · 2019-06-29T15:57:50+00:00

Watch this

BurnoutRS · 2019-06-29T16:11:36+00:00

Omg he could have come down with a knife? shit bro. you better just stay home next time. Theres thugs everywhere.

RedSkeller · 2019-06-29T20:15:22+00:00

Bar fights/drunk fights are beyond retarded. Some people actively look for fights and are instigators. Laugh at it, move on, because it won't matter in 12 hours, a week or even a month later. It's always worth not having to go to jail, having a record, getting permanently disfigured or killed over a bruised ego - every time. I've spend less than less than $50 in my entire life time smoothing things over with a drink if I was in the wrong over the thousands of dollars going to jail, having a record, or hospital bills. It's never worth fighting, especially over a woman, unless it's for your life.

PincheeWhey · 2019-06-29T21:25:49+00:00

What shuold I have done? Ignore him from the start when he yelled at me?

Exactly this. Act like you didn’t hear. Don’t even turn his way. He’s not worthy of your attention.

Jugurthajones87 · 2019-06-29T15:14:24+00:00

Besides learning MMA for yourself, the other thing you should do is sit down with your boys and make it clear that next time something happens, you’ll all have each other’s backs. And you’ll fight like a gang - together. There were five of you. Even if he was bigger than any of you, five guys rushing at him could take him down. Unless you’re all obese or something.

None of your friends had your back. And you probably wouldn’t have had any of theirs if it had happened to them. You have to come to an agreement with them because guess what, things like that happen in life and that won’t be the last time. It may be another year or two but it will happen again.

Chances are he shamed all of you, not just you. Talk to your friends and say if something like that ever happens again, we’re ganging up on him and you better back me up. If some of your friends say they don’t want to, then it’s time to reassess your friendships. I had friends like this in high school and none of us had each other’s backs. It left us all sitting ducks -especially me, since I was singled out the most. Good friends will have your back, worthless ones won’t.

Title	Thugs and verbal aggression
Author	_Sisifo_
Upvotes	24
Comments	30
Date	June 29, 2019 9:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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