Tinder girls

nyrp · 2015-02-19T18:49:36+00:00

Even 4 to 6 rounds of flirty/witty/sexy banter will help establish rapport. You don't have write 80 lines over 3 days, but, it's like a joke, you don't deliver the punchline without set-up. One line of set-up is not enough. 10 lines of set-up is too much. You get a rule of three in comedy. (i.e. a rabbi, a priest, and an imam walk into a bar…) The first set-up is to establish the world. The second set-up is to establish a pattern. The third one is a punchline and upends the pattern.

I would recommend a rule of 3-6 for Tinder. If they are a handful of well spun lines you'll already set up a little rapport and have something flirty or funny to reminisce over when you meet.

lemoncakesaregross · 2015-02-19T18:40:51+00:00

Obvious solution is to build rapport over text

tombreck2 · 2015-02-19T18:45:56+00:00

Once you get their number text "Hey it's Tom, what day are you free to meet for a drink". Set it up within 48 hours otherwise she will lose interest in meeting with you

some girls seem to require us to "get to know each other" via texting

This is her way of saying "Give me attention and validation". I go with:

Me: The least intimate thing you can do to a person with your fingers is text them. What day are you free to meetup

If they don't answer then just next them.

"how many girls are you messaging off tinder"?

You: More than Jesus would prefer

TRPdating · 2015-02-19T18:56:05+00:00

You're probably better of not bothering with the girls who want to text. They are looking for an orbiter, they want your attention and validation. Soft next, and if she asks why you aren't texting, tell her she blew you off the last time you asked her out. Be honest, blunt, and matter of fact.

Stop using pick up lines. I simply ask girls on Tinder: "so what are you looking for, friendship, attention, something casual, or prince charming?" No bull shit, right ti the point.

If she replies favorably, I chat her up for a day and no more than that. The next day I tell them I want to get coffee with them. No response equals soft next and move on.

The only way you can increase your odds on Tinder is to increase your SMV in an advertisable way. Sky dive, scuba, buy a motorcycle, join a muay thai gym, lift a heavy barbell, and so on. Take photos of yourself doing these 'bad boy' activities and watch the panties fly off.

Whenever girls asked how many dates I've been on, I would say the truth: lots and I don't count.

TheFastCat · 2015-02-19T18:40:03+00:00

Yeah I have a similar experiences. What you might want to try is calling them on the phone. They will either think it's super different and cool that you skip texting and go for the call or they will make excuses for not answering it. Dump the latter -- they are only there for validation. They thrive on attention and frustrating cute boys. Calling also verifies you aren't a serial killer, can hold a conversation are confident and interesting (I'm assuming you are all of these things). When you get good at it builds rapport and is internalized as a sort of date; that makes them more comfortable and open for the actual date.

kingofpoplives · 2015-02-19T21:38:24+00:00

You need to get better at discerning which girls are really interested and which ones are just fishing for validation.

In my experience, the ones who want to "get to know you" before the date, even if you do get a date eventually, are gonna be standoffish, flaky, and paranoid.

What you want are the girls who are game to set a date right away. With a couple exceptions, all my best tinder hook ups were girls that were down from the start.

Stop thinking about how many matches you convert to dates. Instead, think about how much time is invested into each date opportunity, as well as the quality of these dates. The ones that make you work the most usually provide the worst date experiences.

My pattern was generic opener, a few minutes of chit chat, then ask for the date. If you don't get a positive response to that request, you drop her right then and there, because it's not gonna happen.

oldredder · 2015-02-20T08:02:56+00:00

validation vs hotness. They decide based on the pictures if you're worth meeting. Otherwise they want you to flirt without meeting so they feel hot.

How to respond to "how many girls are you messaging off tinder"?

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Title	Tinder girls
Author	RPtendancies
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Date	February 19, 2015 6:33 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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