Tips for physical escalation in public?

BeeBopJoe · 2018-05-05T03:45:27+00:00

Don't go for the "bubble gum" escalation moves. Bring out the big guns and go for bold moves. Go in for a kiss asap, don't waste any time.

covertpenguin3390 · 2018-05-05T04:06:05+00:00

I agree with above but to add, as you talk and joke make sure you’re touching her. You should be touching her arm or leg every time there’s a connection made and as long as she reciprocates, keep going. If she shys away, then don’t go past that point but keep up until she’s comfortable. And if it’s reciprocated, once you lock eyes, have a silence, literally take one hand, put it lightly on her face and draw her in for a kiss. I’ve literally never been denied a kiss following those steps. She’s on a date because she already likes you. Now she’s just looking for a reason to not like you. If you don’t give her a reason for that, you’re in the money.

OutrageousCelery · 2018-05-05T04:40:51+00:00

It depends where you are.

If you're in a club you could probably finger her and nobody would notice or care but if you're in a coffee shop I wouldn't even go for first base.

oneredguy · 2018-05-05T05:13:08+00:00

Touch pivot points. Going full bore right away rarely works, but when it works it works bigly. I prefer starting small, even though I ended up going with /u/beebopjoe advice with my wife. Touch her on the elbow, the wrist, the fingers. Use enough of a squeeze that she will think in her hindbrain "oh my god he could overpower me" then move it to a small caress.

Say with your hands, "I could just overpower you. But I choose not to" and let your eyes mimic this.

In any event you do have to try and there's no real way to read about this. You just have to go on lots of dates and try a lot of things and figure it out for yourself. General rules are to be as narcissistic and self entitled as you possibly can make yourself truly be with what type of personality you actually have. Cause you do have to be honest (with yourself)

sosexxx92 · 2018-05-05T07:21:42+00:00

Remember there are different kinds of escalation: verbal escalation, physical escalation and logistical escalation. That in mind, getting her somewhat used to and comfortable with your physical touch is good, but also keep in mind that if you own your testosterone filled attraction towards her you can NOT escalate physically (but do escalate verbally and logistically) and sex can still happen and it can even be more mind blowing than if you had focused on escalating physically. So definitely don't be afraid to escalate as she will respect you more if you express your attraction. Cheers man

BeanNCheeze · 2018-05-05T12:41:57+00:00

Lmao I planned date #2 at the end of the first one.

Usually at the coffee shop I gauged if I was interested in her. If i was then I’d check if she was interested in me. If mutual interest was shared I’d invite her somewhere.

Almost always I’d handhold super soon. Once I knew we were both interested and where driving to the destination I’d somehow pull off handholding super smooth depending on the convo.

“Yea, I’m looking for affection in a relationship. Nothing to bold like within an hour of meeting, of course.”

She’d agree but be all chill and stuff. My left hand on the wheel and right on hand rest.

“What’s your opinion on hand holding? Personally I love it. Like right now, is it fine if I hold your hand?”

She says sure most of the time.

“See, like this kind of affection. Something simple to show interest is what I like”

This is how I would do something simple like hand holding. Or if I gauged and knew she wanted to hand hold I’d just offer my hand and she’d take it lol. Or while walking I’d brush mine against hers and she’d get the memo etc.

Title	Tips for physical escalation in public?
Author	OutrageousCelery
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	May 5, 2018 3:26 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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