To men with LTRs

cufflad · 2018-05-29T01:56:13+00:00

Remember that she’s not yours, it’s just your turn. Just like it was those guys turn before you.

Don’t get emotionally attached, enjoy the ride and stay in the moment.

You gotta be willing to pass that shit up in a heartbeat if/when things go south.

Purity and all that BS is BP fantasy. 99% of girls these days have gobbled on plenty of cock. Deal with it or buy a sex doll.

The__Tren__Train · 2018-05-29T02:26:56+00:00

she's had plenty of men before you

she'll have plenty of men after you

hell, she might even have some men DURING you

don't paint yourself into a corner... always have an exit plan

women changed the rules to the game. this is the new normal

RedPilledRoaster · 2018-05-29T02:05:03+00:00

Just accept she’s not yours. It’s hard but doable. The more experience you get the more you’ll accept this.

alchamest · 2018-05-29T05:29:16+00:00

None of us are pure, we are animals.

CMajorThe3rd · 2018-05-29T04:23:07+00:00

Why do I care if she has enjoyed sex as much as I have?

for me, its easy to just remember that AWALT and have a plan B.

room_303 · 2018-05-29T06:19:47+00:00

Mine was a virgin till 25 when she met me.

Avskygod0 · 2018-05-29T07:49:50+00:00

The joys of living in a second-world country is that such cases are rarer

suckymeh · 2018-05-29T09:27:23+00:00

Doesn't bother me. I love sluts. I consider it a term of endearment (whore is a different matter). If she's had lots of practice she'll do a better job pleasing me.

How fun is sex with an anxious, conservative type?

How fun is it when a girl gags on your dick and fucks you like a porn star?

DwightWolftail · 2018-05-29T05:50:18+00:00

Most people here will tell you that you are insecure. Maybe that's how it is. Maybe for us both, cause I've been thinking this since forever. But I seriously see this problem as an advantage. From my point of view, you have this need to see her as a holy virgin to be able to feel close. And it is logical. Men prefer virgins. Always had. And for clear reasons, but I digress. What I want to explain to you, is that it is good that you can't feel that close to them anyways. You see them for what they really are. Sacks of bone, meat and shit, exchanging fluids with other similar sacks. It's not bad. It's nature. You have no problem mate. You think you have a problem becausr somehow you got convinced that people are otherwise.

Yes it stings sometimes. But it's for your best. This tool is not made for you to feel awful. It's there to protect you from feeling things that you shouldn't. As most of our bodies' mechanisms.

Concluding, have fun with women, and even in an ltr, know that women are fickle and not too holy, and not innocent. Even the word I just used: Innocence , is wrongly placed here. For sex with multuple people is not a crime, even though it has negative consequences especially for women.

microgum · 2018-05-29T03:58:49+00:00

Do you not think about other girls in a LTR?

Have you not “tossed salad a little bit?”

It’s outcome dependence.

A king doesn’t care if his peasants leave if he knows he has the most peasants of any kingdom and his needs are being met.

Neither of us are kings, but realize if you don’t care if you lose the LTR then you don’t care how much penis has been in her mouth.

You’re looking at this problem from the wrong lens.

You don’t care that she’s sucked dick.

You care that she has had others and you’re worried you don’t have the same abundance as her.

who wants a chick no one else wants?

I sure don’t.

MattyAnon · 2018-05-29T13:29:29+00:00

How do you deal with the fact your LTR has gotten down and dirty with lots of other dudes.

If it's "lots" then she's not a LTR.

If you can't handle it being only your turn, don't get into a LTR.

be with her

It's not like I'm getting married. You either have sex with slutty women, or you stay celibate. Them's your options.

ow can i get past this strange ideal i feel?

It's not strange, it's natural.

Invest less. You're renting a used car, not owning a new one.

Even to understand that your LTR WILL have sexual thought of others when with you (regarless of actions)

Who cares. I don't expect permanency nor rely on a SO for validation or to define me.

I feel like its impossible to get close to a woman understanding that they are all "unpure".

You don't need to be close to women.

Seoul_Brother · 2018-05-29T17:29:10+00:00

Literally the only reason why I chose to stay in my current LTR is her relatively lower n-count for today's society, old school values (non-new wave feminist), and her passion for working hard and being the 1st mate to my captain. I have been skeptical of her for the longest time and believed her to be telling half truths about her sexual past, etc, but everything I have crossed checked on her over two years has been 100% honest communication. I still believe in AWALT, but AWALT has a spectrum that applies to some women more than others I feel. She still behaves predictably as a woman with the shit and comfort testing and I pass them fine time and again. She also has a good network of girl friends that keep each other in check and shame each other for doing anything shady (aka slut shame, and discourage slutty behaviors outside of actual committed relationships)

Another thing that keeps be sleeping at night is the fact that if something were to happen (like cheating or massive disrespect), I am perfectly capable getting back out there weekend of and closing on someone else (I still go out with friends without her and practice game, dance, have fun with single friends while I dangle a carrot the other girls can't have). She knows I've had crazier, more depraved daddy issues-type sex than her lack of experience, and I think I apply enough dread through my actions for her to realize that I wouldn't think twice to cut her out if she were to do something like cheat or disrespect me (but who knows?) I still keep on my toes and still lift, keep myself desirable, prove that I can communicate well with strangers/women in most situations and work hard to achieve my own goals outside of my time with her.

But that being said, if I end this LTR for whatever reason, I would choose to not settle for another one indefinitely. There is very little probability that there would be someone else that has as low of an n-count, holds traditional values, and is relatively easy to work with in regards to shit tests, comfort tests, and plays the role of 1st mate as well. Single life looks fun and I know I'd thrive in it, but she's been a great partner and something I haven't experienced with the many plates and exes I've had prior. I never think about her past since I know that she dated some prime betas & losers, and she put in a lack of effort in bed with her past partners before I started to challenge her and teach her what I like.

I'll admit that there is a level of one-itis in committing to a relationship, and I will even go further as to say that I would never pull dread level 11-12 (would much rather cut things off and hoe around myself). She's the closest thing to a clean slate I've experienced (other than the really boring truly religious girls).

MindFuktd · 2018-05-29T21:55:01+00:00

I just remember, I'm fucking somebody's future wife, keeps me Zen about the whole issue

canyousmellechidna · 2018-05-29T05:58:45+00:00

Some men prefer women with experience.

Some men do not care that their women had sex before them. I know young women who are getting married, that had a very sexual past. Then they left that lifestyle and somehow crossed paths with more serious men.

Nobody is really pure these days, not men, not women. I prefer an experienced partner. Nothing is worse than a partner who has no clue how to make you cum.

Batmanforreal2 · 2018-05-29T06:15:37+00:00

"Its just your turn"

Cloudsurf89 · 2018-05-29T08:28:33+00:00

You sound like a bit of a snowflake that pedestalises women.

"She has to be pure for me. I can't be happy with or value a women that has a sexual past."

She's not mine, it's just my turn.

If I died today then I'd want her to hook up within a few months - she's human with her own wants and desires.

I'll also add: When you buy a brand new car, others have driven it before you. It's all just perception.

Agni_Forma · 2018-05-29T10:03:55+00:00

Because unless I am gonna marry that pussy I have no reason to care how many cocks she had inside her,as the men whose cocks were inside her had probably tons of other cocks inside their sisters,mother and one of those cocks was probably mine.

VoidPill · 2018-05-29T12:54:58+00:00

Because she didn't know you? Because she's human and you would have done the same in her shoes?

If you're feeling like this then you're insecure about your lack of experience. Go fuck a lot of women and you won't care.

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2018-05-29T16:12:20+00:00

What you think is special(sexual access to her) ...is not

htbf · 2018-05-29T22:05:27+00:00

I'm gonna take a wild guess and assume you're a virgin.

I used to think like that when I was a virgin. I was an idiot who thought women were magical.

friendandadvisor · 2018-05-29T23:55:36+00:00

Only you can deal with this. If you want to marry, you will have your own limitations in what you will allow. You will justify it yourself-is she worth it for you? If not, do not justify it. If she is worth it, to you, you will give it a pass.

redpillrobert · 2018-05-29T04:11:33+00:00

faggot

Title	To men with LTRs
Author	TheBlondeWarrior
Upvotes	12
Comments	69
Date	May 29, 2018 1:45 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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