Too quiet

Daddytoyou92 · 2019-04-01T01:08:36+00:00

If you're quiet but your face/body language is emotionless, you might give off a creepy vibe

mrmaldoror · 2019-04-01T01:33:10+00:00

You need to connect, not just chat. Ask more peculiar and premeditated questions that makes her eyes light up.

thrwy75479 · 2019-04-01T01:06:19+00:00

Are you afraid of saying the wrong thing?

youngbull24 · 2019-04-01T01:33:49+00:00

There’s a fine line but when things get quiet don’t be forcing it becoming a dancing money. Sometimes she has nothing to say either and it will become a shit test on if you are going to become Kevin Hart acting all corny trying to make her laugh. Just work on it to where their isn’t long extended periods

alwaysburnt · 2019-04-01T03:01:29+00:00

Im the same. I am quiet most of the time, even in the presence of very close friends, and I prefer it that way. I feel as though people talk too much about generic shit. However it has become a hindrance when I'm seeing someone and it would be helpful to be able to open up and establish better conversation but sometimes I'd sit there and not be even remotely interested in what they're saying especially if its generic conversation.

I'm unsure how to go about changing this for the sake of closer relationships...

EvolvedVirus · 2019-04-01T01:25:24+00:00

Yes change it. You are afraid of talking too much.

It happens to everyone, they go on a date, and sometimes it's great and you connect, but especially first dates, quietness can be a problem with every guy. The reason is that you don't know the other person, so it's difficult to know what areas of topics to go down and what areas interest each other.

Being super talkative is great, if you are a master conversationalist. The reason being super-talkative is bad is because you are more likely to talk yourself out of getting laid by the girl and make more mistakes.

But if due to being afraid of making mistakes you are talking a lot less that's bad. If due to not having much in your head to talk about, that's also bad because it means you're not a good conversationalist.

throwawa6ksjdbendkfo · 2019-04-01T03:54:34+00:00

Lmao these comments are so fuckin wack. Bro shes telling you your quiet because shes run out of covert ways to communicate. Dont be creepy but im sure if shes still spinning herself as a plate shes into you. If a woman wants to fuck you she'll find a way to fuck you. Strong silent types are a thing for a reason. Only downside for you is if your being quiet is a defense mechanism. If your a shy little baby then thats bad. But if you just prefer not to make a meal out of things thats fine. Her words < her actions. Read sidebar my dude❤

altyboy_ · 2019-04-01T05:52:12+00:00

Try to smile next time when you’re being quiet so you don’t seem creepy. Also when you do speak, use a strong assertive voice

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-04-01T08:41:51+00:00

Try talking too much for a while, then reign it in since you’re naturally quite.

livear · 2019-04-01T09:11:54+00:00

Yes, because they are bored, because they are boring, like most girls. You need to lead the conversation just like you lead her on dates just like you lead her in the bedroom

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-04-01T15:46:09+00:00

Remember you’re the bull. Not her.

BigFeetBigDick · 2019-04-01T01:11:59+00:00

There shouldn’t be lots of quiet time on dates. Talk, keep her talking, and have fun.

Title	Too quiet
Author	se_anz
Upvotes	7
Comments	18
Date	April 1, 2019 12:59 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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