First time posting on a RedPill sub so thanks for wading thru with me. Been reading and applying method for some time now but I've got a lot to learn. Major players in this story are me (26, Asst Art Director for a travel mag/website) and her (28, writer/photographer for same mag).

We met about a year ago when I started working there. Girl is an eight on a bad day, fit as hell, up for anything adventure or travel wise, obviously. Kind of a weird mix of smart/savvy and spontaneous/insane, like if you want knowledge on money or politics she's your girl but also lights out for, say, Costa Rica on a whim because she has a craving for fish tacos.

I had a serious case of oneitis early on, but it was right as I swallowed the pill so I recognized and kept it in check. We had good rapport straight off, funny, sarcastic flipping each other shit. Little flirtatious maybe so I thought good plate potential. She's more of an activity over dinner and a movie sort of girl so I took her climbing and later for beers, escalated and got shut down. I got the "we've hung out twice. I'm not even ready to date you, much less jump into bed." I've had girls say that same thing the same night we ended up in bed so agreed but escalated again, shut down this time with "I'm into you, this just isn't my speed." No sex without a relationship basically.

Part of me thought the opportunity for a long term thing with her was awesome, but there were red flags. Girls who travel, lot of guy friends, really in the moment spontaneous sort. Not the picture of a chaste LTR seeker so I adopted abundance mentality and moved on. She basically said she was disappointed but got where I was coming from.

A year later, here's the issue - I've gotten to know her better, her circles better, and her story checks out so to speak. All the signs that say "next her or plate her, she's a liberated (read: slutty) girl" go nowhere. Apparently she's only dated two guys.

Now I'm having thoughts of "she didn't next me because she wasn't interested, she's really a stand up girl." I'm toying with approaching her again, seeing where it goes. Oneitis kicking in again or a chance to correct an initial screw up? Help me out guys.