Uncomfortable silence

cheechawcheechaw · 2014-11-28T15:05:32+00:00

Lean back, smile, and look at her pretty face. Silence needs to be enjoyed.

a_nus · 2014-11-28T02:36:50+00:00

Awkward silences happen to everyone. The difference is how much importance you give it and how much you let it affect you.

It literally burns my insides until I reopen conversation

Also keep in mind it's not always on you to re-engage conversation. Sometimes you leave it up to the girl, and if she's interested enough, she'll reopen.

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-11-28T02:17:26+00:00

Don't live in fear of awkwardness or failure. Enjoy yourself. One way you can loosen up and flow in the moment is the use of a common over the counter medication called "beer."

Other than that, I have taken the liberty of addressing this very subject in a recent blog post. Enjoy. https://geiststeuerung.wordpress.com/2014/11/02/what-to-talk-about/

"One thing I always did is to get her talking. Only interject so much as to get her to continue pouring out her heart. Get her to tell you everything she thinks (feels) is fascinating in the world, how she genuinely believes (feels) she is special and what her hopes and dreams are. Then after 4 or 5 hours when she has poured her entire soul out to you, lean back and say, “Wow, you’re so much more interesting, deep and creative than any other girls. How can society not appreciate you more?” This is of course assuming she doesn’t want to just get plowed. In that case, she’ll disrespect you if you show interest in her as a person."

"If you can’t think of anything to talk about, get more specific. You’re talking about America? Well, narrow it down to your state. Can’t think of anything about your state? What about your city? Can’t think of anything about your city? How about the blades of grass in front of you where you’re sitting?

Just try it, you’ll get better. Eventually you’ll develop a repetoire of “stand up” material. You can just pull out any number of topics in any situation."

SkorchZang · 2014-11-28T06:04:42+00:00

My go-to trick is to enjoy and even deliberately create the awkward silences, then just put it all on her. Shrug, lift up your hands, make a face of expectation at her like "So? Now what? You gonna say anything or you're retarded like that?". Without saying a word, so the awkwardness really burns. You make it clear it's all on her to do something about it if she wants to, and then after the awkward pause if the girl goes "Soooooo, what do you do?" etc., it's fucking on because on a subtle level she's now dancing to your tune, trying to meet your expectations.

Title	Uncomfortable silence
Author	FooleryCommaTom
Upvotes	6
Comments	5
Date	November 28, 2014 1:51 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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