I've been reading TRP for about 6 months now. During that time I was in a dry spell and figured the knowledge was needed. I could see reflections of BP behavior in previous relationships and break ups, was oblivious to the concept of the SMP and SMV, etc. etc. Luckily no divorces or kids, etc.

So overall, being single and without many current prospects I considered myself in de facto monk mode and set to doing what I could to improve my knowledge of women/dating and in addition improve my own SMV (lifting, goals, frame, posture, etc)

Recently I started sleeping with a girl who was a friend of a friend. In the past month we've slept together 5-7 times and initially I planned out some inexpensive/moderate dates for us to enjoy as well. I kept texting to logistics and things seemed fine. I began both attempting to sense her ability (plate?/potential LTR?) and attempting to use the end of my dry streak to gain momentum for finding and spinning another plate(s)/potential ONS's (preselection/general confidence boost now in my favor.)

Here's where I unfortunately fucked up. I have performance anxiety with new girls. I'm working on it (immersion, sex god method which I started reading two days ago) and I've given her orgasm via regular intercourse (still knew to be dominant) but literally this morning was the first time I managed to finish during intercourse. So my first orgasm during sex was maybe our 6th-7th time. This anxiety can also boner kill sometimes because I feel like "I'm fucking for nothing because I know I'm not going to get there anyways." Sucks for both parties.

Needless to say I was satisfied to finally get there today and I feel from here on out I should have an easier time staying hard/getting there (already did it once, "less pressure") but I feel it's too late.

While she was showering I decided to open up her phone and view her texts to see AWALT/if she was fully on the hypergamy train. I didn't read much because I knew she was in a rush to get to work but I read both a text message in a group chat ("the group" assuming a bunch of her friends) saying "we had sex for 5 minutes and he went soft, I'm dying" which was sent the night previously and a sexual train of texts to another dude.

I didn't take the time to read in detail both because I knew she could be out of the shower at any moment and also because it (thanks to you guys) wasn't really that surprising to me. For all I know there could have been more texts from other dudes. Also worth mentioning the sexual texts to said Chad Thundercock were likely sent last night when we were hanging.

So while it's definitely a lesson in that I need to increase my sexual preformance/immersion if I'm going to effectively maintain a desirable frame... my main question is...

Do I keep her as a plate because a) sex is nice and clearly after a dry stretch I need practice b) potential preselection benefits? Or do I just cut it loose/NEXT asap/accept a bit more monk mode/use the confidence boost of getting a few lays to my benefit?

The situation is slightly fucked because I am going to Vegas this weekend with her and her friends. One of my friends is going but it's her, my friend, me, and 6 of her friends... clubbing etc is on the agenda. To be honest while it may be fun it could also be a nightmare and I was considering bailing even before this new info came along.

I feel it may be a bit too late to bail but if I did... just no explanation/"can't make it"? Or do I explain "yeah I don't think you're what I'm looking for in a partner. Thanks for the good times"

Even if I do go, is this a NEXT/or try to spin situation when I get back? I figure the initial damage of sexual nerviousness is probably unrecoverable fully. It's gotten better and I'm confident I can deliver consistently great sex in the future but I don't even know if she's worth that much effort anymore. She is a cool chill girl but regardless of that, I don't really need someone playing the field/I can sense she's putting less into it than she was initially. We know loyalty and respect are more important than "funny" and "chill."

I do wish I had more time to read the texts, part of me feels a month is reasonable to still have other "plates" for herself (no exclusivity talk) but a much bigger part feels I should GTFO/ or plate her and try to avoid oneits in the meantime.

I dunno. Feel a bit lost TRP, sorry for TLDR, let me know what you think. Overreacting/spin her till she breaks or just next/move on? Lastly, assuming I next and no contact, when she messages me with "hey!" or similar... just ignore? If she responds to silence with questioning, do I just say "hey tbh I looked through your phone and even though I respect whatever you want to do and don't judge, I'm not really looking for those qualities in a partner. I had fun while it lasted, thanks."? Or further radio silence?

Thanks TRP I'm probably overthinking this. Cheers.