Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/54jbhr/ex_dropping_off_my_things/

Hey guys, it's been a while but i finally got the time to sit and write the update. A couple weeks ago my ex came by to drop off my things and i was so confused with the outcome.

Right off the bat after i greeted her she offers me a seat in the car to catch up. She begins to tell me how miserable and lonely she is, and how much she hates her new job as we are driving to fill up the gas tank. (she mentions this multiple times btw and looked like she was holding back tears.)

I think her anxiety kicked in or she was about to have a panic attack; talking really fast I haven't seen her like this before. I on the other hand was surprisingly calm and just having a good time.

As shes pumping the gas its starts to malfunction so i get out of the car and try pressing the nozzle then it ends up working. Wasn't sure if she did it on purpose but moving on as im putting in the gas she starts to stare at my arms (hitting the gym hard) then glances at me with an innocent face as if she wants me?

As shes telling me how much her life sucks she said one thing that was interesting: "I know in the beginning of the break-up it seemed like a good idea, we were fine and okay but now its different. You start to think about the other person you've known for so long." Something along those lines. I felt really bad for her but i hid my emotions and i didnt comfort her once throughout the meetup, i'm not sure if i did the right thing or not.

She brings up the blocking of social media saying she just had to clear her mind and ended up adding me back on the spot. I said no worries. And goes on to tell me that im welcome to talk to her whenever since shes so "lonely and miserable".

After we finished talking and catching up i told her i had to leave but as i was about to exit the car she was just sitting there kind of expecting me to kiss her. Instead i just hugged her and left because i didnt want the whole "oh thats not my intentions" b/s.

Now this is where things get strange...

It's been a couple days since we saw each other and there has been no contact from either one of us. I invite her to the movies to see if shes down to chill and if not no worries i have someone else lined up. She declined and i said no problem. She later texts me saying a bunch of shit about i hope you find someone who makes you happy bla bla bla and that she was in a relationship with the guy she branch swung on me and its not fair to him that I talk to my ex, which i found really funny considering she told me how lonely and unhappy she was 3 days prior to this text. I told her no worries i respect your decision you know where to find me.

My question is what was her intentions since im still a nooby and cant read between the lines yet, need to work on my frame as well. She still has me on social media and shes always checking out my snapchat. I'm starting to feel a lot better about myself and ill admit from time to time i do think about her still. But im more excited for my goals im trying to reach.

I am currently reading no more mr nice guy and listening to the black philip show podcast by patrice o'neal. Spending more time with my friends and doing my favorite hobby which is creating videos on my spare time. For the future i plan on changing my gym routine to a more aesthetic ppl schedule and try out leangains diet. Lastly I want to continue finishing up the sidebar. If your wondering where my goals with girls are well there isnt one yet because i have a lot of work to do on myself. Thanks for reading and happy halloween!