Was pointed here, looking for advice

Hairy007Beast · 2018-01-03T05:12:46+00:00

She was an emotionally, mentally and at the end even physically abusive and cheating wife.

Your better off without her

Anyone made the transition from beta to alpha mind sharing what helped them or what pointed them in the right direction and kept them going?

Consistency and gradual change in mindset is the key.

Implementing TRP into your life will improve your life, but it will be a long never ending journey. So, focus on consistency. Consistency accompanies results. Each consistent action slightly reduces the gap between your current achievements and your goal. These miniscule reductions of the gap add up and what seemed impossible is now within hands reach. Eventually, your current achievement surpasses your goal and it’s time for the next goal. Find a mission in life and work towards conquering it. Plenty of information in the sidebar.

I want to have the aesthetics of a shredded d-bag that makes girlfriends cheat and all guys are jealous. How long till I alpha up? I don't see any damn results.**

Results will gradually appear, but it is tiny and unnoticeable in the beginning. So, unnoticeable that you may want to give up consistency, but if you give up, results will never come. Stay consistent. When results do come, it will be undeniable and people will ask for your secret. The secret is no secret at all, just simple consistency. Every day you have a choice to get closer or further from your goals. By choosing to get closer repeatedly, you get there. You realize that there is no magic formula, it’s plain simple. Take ACTION & be CONSISTENT.

Other than hitting the gym, make sure your diet is in check, and your getting good rest.

**You didn't say that last quote, but not seeing any results was my complain a couple years ago. So, I'll respond to my former self and maybe you get something out of it.

LordThunderbolt · 2018-01-03T15:13:21+00:00

Have the kids take patternity tests to make sure they're yours. Don't rely on looks.

kregsslauggteepla · 2018-01-03T10:08:20+00:00

She’s not helping with her kids at all????

thebadmanpuntdbaxter · 2018-01-03T13:49:05+00:00

You should first understand that these problems are inherently your fault for failing to command, but secondarily that you likely were never taught masculine values that would guide you in command. You got a dog and you never trained it because you were told that you and the dog were equals

BusterVadge · 2018-01-03T14:27:27+00:00

This hits home for me. I was married for a number of years to a woman who would power trip over absolutely everything. I married young and was dumb enough to to blind myself to the obvious fact that everything in our life from that moment on would be a power struggle.

In my situation, I was the one who cheated. I found escapes in other women and was amazed that there were ones out there who would respect my opinions, not try to fight me on everything and in general not be an uptight bitch about things that don't matter.

My infidelity is what woke me up. After being married for a while it's easy to forget that there are thousands of other women who WILL respect you for every one who doesn't.

I wasn't red pilled until a few years after my divorce and hindsight through a red pill lens is 20/20. These days I'm in the best physical shape of my life and have a healthy sex life with my LTR and other options.

If I had to do it all again, I would have started lifting earlier, cultivated more close male relationships and instead of complaining about shit I would have taken action on the things that make me happy.

Welcome to the red pill, and I hope my retrospect helps you some. Remember above all that your journey is yours, and no matter what people say here, you still have the power as a man to veto something as shitty advice, or advice that works for you.

MattyAnon · 2018-01-03T17:37:42+00:00

I'm always picking up her slack with them and she's a wreck, blames it all on me

Sadly this is normal for entitled women and weak men (or perhaps in your case, men trained to be weak for women).

Not only does she do fuck all, but it's all YOUR fault.

I've started standing up for myself and asserting myself much more the past two months and it meets with even more resistance from her and a constant "Anger, sadness, needy" cycle from her even though she is currently with someone else.

Don't engage with her on this basis.

I just want to make sure I'm doing this right. I

What you're doing right: trying to make positive steps in your life, going to the gym, asking a reasonable question on here, getting out of your shitty marriage.

What you need to do: cut as much contact with your wife as you can. Keep it professional and civil and minimise it as much as you can. No sex obviously. No talking. She'll try and throw shit at you, it's your job to simply not be there for it. She'll fight this (sensing your lack of beta commitment), it's your job to avoid it as neatly, simply and politely as you can. "Sorry honey, I have to go and do X now".

Anyone made the transition from beta to alpha mind sharing what helped them or what pointed them in the right direction and kept them going?

It's just a work in progress. Keep banging on at it.

Title	Was pointed here, looking for advice
Author	Sereden91
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	January 3, 2018 4:47 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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