What am I doing wrong?

FromTheCaveIntoLight · 2017-07-08T22:17:06+00:00

Just watch porn that mirrors what you want done and tell him to do it like what they are doing in that porn. Watch it and get very sexual and turned on and make it happen.

Auvergnat · 2017-07-09T08:48:17+00:00

OK since you didn't get any proper redpill answer, let me help.

One, your need for a dominant male is natural. Nothing wrong with it. And if you value your relationship, it's good that you try to make it happen, or else you might end up resenting your partner for not fulfilling your need for alpha cock.

His problems are that (1) he may not be naturally dominant, and (2) even if he is, a society bent on feminism has taught him that girls want men who "respect women" and "treat them as equals to men" and "communicate" in complete obliviousness to the fact that women psychologically need a dominant man to feel safe in her relationship.

Your main issue is that you can't tell him to be dominant, as telling him what to do makes you the dominant per definition. He needs to come to it by himself. Or apparently so. The best way to do so is to start by bringing that dominance out of him in bed.

When you sleep with him, start showing more enthusiasm for any activity that involves him dominating, and less enthusiasm for activities that involves "equality" or your "superiority". Example: if you're ontop of him, you feel and look "meh". While when HE is on top, you moan and move your waist more. He should naturally get that you take more pleasure in him being in charge. If he doesn't, increase the difference in enthusiasm. More examples: suggest role plays that happen to be dominant/submissive: teacher/student, doctor/nurse, daddy/daughter, prison guard/inmate. Suggest the use of restraining ropes. If he does ANYTHING that remotely looks like him taking a dominant role, SHOW increased enthusiasm. It will either "click" for him one day, or just get him to be naturally increasingly dominant. I personally only finally realized that women didn't want "respect" in bed the day I pinned my partner against a wall when we passed the threshold of our house after a week not seeing her, out of sheer lust, and I still clearly remember seeing her eyes widen with excitement.

Once he's getting half-way there, get him to read Daniel Rose's "Sex God Method". Again don't tell him to read it and do it. He needs to feel like he got there by himself or else it goes against the point of making him dominant. Get a male friend of him to give him. Or make up a fake convo with a female friend on facebook where she "sent it to you", and you're discussing how "interesting this is" and let your facebook chat opened "by mistake" so he stumbles on it. That sort of stuff.

When you finally get him to accept the fact that women desire dominant men in bed, then he might be ready to accept the fact that women desire dominant men in all aspects of a relationships. Get him on to the red pill then.

vipera_ursinii · 2017-07-08T22:37:38+00:00

Is he in deep love with you? Sometimes men who are in love are more into romantic than rough sex.

FuckboyAWALT · 2017-07-08T22:07:51+00:00

In my opinion there aren't any better genes out there...

Why are you asking this question then?

Easiest way is to tell him straight. You want to get dominated, treated and fucked like a whore(hair pulled/choked). If he can't he's not into that.

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2017-07-09T02:04:20+00:00

Relationships are hard. I would definitely be receptive to any women telling me their needs, especially if they are in the rough side. Sounds like you are in a relationship with a man-child. Send me your details if you are in the East Coast. :)

Title	What am I doing wrong?
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Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	July 8, 2017 9:58 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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