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[–]TheBlackAlistar8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
You're better off ignoring her and moving on. If you haven't already fucked her within the first few weeks you've known each other then move along. Don't be a baby and say you can't do it, because you can. There's guy out here who have been married or in an LTR much longer and have been able to move on.
Also don't be going to the gym to try to get in shape for a girl, go to the gym so you can get in shape for yourself and boost in confidence.
[–]anonymouspls points points points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I'm not looking to just fuck her I want a relationship and to be able to make her happy
[–]TheBlackAlistar6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Seriously dude you're a mess. A relationship isn't going to happen, just accept it. You're both going different places, you wasted too much time, she only sees you as a friend. A long distance relationship isn't a real thing.
[–]RedPharaohRising4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He won't. He's in oneitis. Has to learn the hard way
[–]Pitchfork51 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So you're a gigantic vagina. Got it.
[–]DarkishUniform points points points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I've been checking this subreddit for quite some time. Your responses to posts like this always bring a large amount of enjoyment.
[–]Pitchfork51 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Shit I thought you were my Uber driver
[–]TheBlackAlistar3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
Oh and also, it's not your job to make her happy, it's her job to make you happy. How long have you even been trying to read TRP? Probably not at all cause this is some of the very basics covered. I'd recommend you start reading up.
[–]Pada_0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
wait...i think its none jobs to make anyone happy, she (and you) should be happy just by be whith the other person.
ofc its another matter if you are on ltr and you have other life problems and she wants to help you (or you help her)
I've just skimmed it, the thing is I started reading trp and a lot of the people are saying shit like just to fuck women and leave or so with multiple or something, but I want something real
[–]TheBlackAlistar0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Let me hear your idea of something real
Taking care of her, loving her, being clingy w/ her, going out with her on dates going out with her to eat whatnot, chilling with her watching movies, talking to her whenever either of us feel down or need anything
[–]TheBlackAlistar4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
You're living in a damn fairy tale. Women don't want a clingy ass man. Instead of just skimming the sidebar you really need to read it and process it. Go read some of the horror stories that people have posted, you'll get a rude awakening of the real world.
Alright I'll have a look but yeah I felt like some of that felt not possible I really have no idea where to go from here i just want her so bad
[–]TheBlackAlistar0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You block on everything and stop talking to her, that's where you go.
I can't though I can't handle that I'd rqth r be rejected
[–]NPIF3 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Dude, I'm gonna give you some real talk and you're probably not going to like it.
You have oneitis. It sounds like you haven't read the side bar, so let me keep it simple: oneitis means you are infatuated with one girl and have put her on a pedestal. Long story short, this type of behavior is fucking repulsive to women. Here's why.
Women date up. Meaning women want to be with a man they admire and respect. Worshipping her, when she is acutely aware of her own flaws, makes her think you have no other options (which is true) and also tells her you are inexperienced sexually. This is a turn off because women are attracted to men who are preselected, meaning other girls also want your dick.
Here's the bottom line: you're not going to win this girl. She will not be your girlfriend. At least not any time soon. As others have said, the best move for you is to truly distance yourself from her, let your feelings fade (they will), and meet other girls while you embark on your self improvement journey. Women really don't want to be the center of anyone's universe, no matter how many Disney movies suggest the opposite. No, what they really want is to be with someone who has an amazing journey she can be a part of. Think of her as supporting actor to your lead role.
I know all of this seems impossible right now. I want to tell you that many of us on TRP, myself included, had similar high school experiences to yours. I was so guilty of the pedestalization bit all through my teenage years and into college. It wasn't until a friend of mine forced me to take a year off dating and relationships that I realized the true rules of the sexual marketplace. Which are brutal... But fair.
That girl you love? She really wants to be fucked by a guy who's dominant. Aggressive. Sexually experienced. And she deserves that, if she's the 10/10 you claim. So what can you do? Cry because you're fat and unhappy? Masturbate to her pictures and write shitty poetry? No. Fuck no.
Instead, you're going to man up. Which first means recognizing your shortcomings. And then doing something about it. If I had to hazard a guess , you're probably like most young guys who watch porn every day, eat like shit, don't exercise, and spend too much time on reddit or video games. Step 1: quit the porn and masturbation altogether. Within a week you'll see an improvement in your self confidence, memory, and communication skills. Step 2: read the entire sidebar and top 50 TRP posts of all time. Then read them again. Step 3: hit the gym. Lift 4x a week for an hour. Start small if you need to. Just fucking start.
Last but not least, step 4: talk to everyone. About anything. Men. Women. Kids. Talk about the weather. Sports. Give someone a compliment on their shoes. Just get used to talking to strangers. Like any other skill, cold opens and communication can be improved upon with practice.
I sincerely hope you have the self awareness to see how many people in this thread want to help you. This advice may not be what you want to hear since it won't help you win this girl in particular, but let me assure you, there are plenty of fish in the sea and your journey is just beginning. If you follow this advice, in a year or so I'd be surprised if you looked back on this thread and laughed. Good luck and Godspeed.
[–]gaxyu1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
How do you check top 50 TRP posts of all time? Are that the posts with gold or what?
[–]TheBlackAlistar1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Dude she's like a drug to you, only way you're gonna get past this is by cutting her out of your life.
She's like a drug to you, only way you'll get past it is by quitting. Stop being a damn baby, and man the fuck up already.
[–]RedPharaohRising4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hoo boy this is going to end poorly. I hope you get what you want,but it'd be unlikely to work out, or last. Sorry dude, this is part of the process, when you oneitis hard it feels like this is the real deal, but it will feel that way again, too.
[–]robodylan1230 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I'd say just go for it with what you know or what you can learn from here. If she says no don't let it affect you, there will be plenty more in college trust me. Don't let anything serious happen as in sex is ok, but don't try and make it a LTR unless you are willing to stick with it through college and only seeing her intermittently if that's the case. Best thing that can happen is you get to have fun got a month and you go on to have more fun at college.
I m thinking about this what I had in mind was since we have 3 month holidays after this 1 month take her to a concert with her favourite singer which would make us more stronger and her maybe be more interested or so? And if we get together would it be a bad idea to move to her college? Also I feel like it would affect me heavily because all 16 years of my life this is the only time I've wanted something real so trying to be careful with it, also LTR meaning? Also I don't mind not having sex or whatever as long as I get her & can make her happy is my goal
[–]robodylan1231 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Following her to college and doing everything to make her happy means submitting to her frame. You need I do what makes you happy. LTR means long term relationship
Ah I see so I'll keep doing my own thing but damn I want her so bad
[–]nebder 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm in my late 30s. Looking back now, I can see the different oneitis's I've had over the years. None ended well for me, mostly because I thought the girl I desired was more important than myself. "If only she would be with me, then my life would be complete. I just want her to love me" those thoughts automatically put her first in my mind. Guess what, women don't want and will not truly appreciate or respect being put first above a man. It makes them think "I can do better than him. He's not even important to himself, so why should he be important to me"
The worst oneitis I had was in my early 20s. We worked together, hung out and drank and partied with and without work friends (it was restaurant work. drinking together and fucking your coworkers was the norm. About the only place where I'd ever say shit where you eat) hell we even fucked with spurts of regular fucking as relationships came in and out of our lives. I had it bad. This went on for maybe 2 years all told. Yeah I fucked some other girls in the meantime but she was the one that filled my mind. I would dream about her and shit. The best/worst day of my life was when I learned she was moving 10 states away. There was some severe thoughts for a while, then I moved on with my life. I learned I was happier without her in my life dragging me down than with her in it.
That story tells you I understand your feelings and how it feels like she's the only woman in the whole wide world for you. I will argue rationally with your emotions. There's 3.5 billion women on this planet. Do you not think that out of that number there is at least one higher quality woman than your one girl? Truthfully there's a whole lot more than just one. You need to experience a broader range of women to fully understand that. You're young and at the point in life where you have to make your own mistakes to learn from them. I can talk myself blue in the face, but nothing teaches like experience.
Start now with the self improvement. Lift to make yourself awesome. Determine the path you want in life. Take life in your hands and make it yours. Learn game so you can understand how to win the mating game.
StrongLifts for lifting. Simple, effective program that takes the thought and guesswork out of your lifting program. Girlschase.com for your game foundation. Read the rational male. Read that book over and over until you internalize the concepts. The truth can be bitter yet it's liberating. Read the sidebar and understand that the Disney fairytale you've been fed your whole life is all a pack of lies.
Your life is ahead of you. Play the long game here. Put your foundations in order like health and education. You keep that up and by the time you hit your late 20s early 30s you'll be in the top 10% of men with your pick of the young crop of girls that are always coming into their sexual peak. You'll be the one on the top of the smp at that point and all the effort will pay of immensely. At that point your choices are basically limitless.
Good luck man. Hope you can see your oneitis for what it is and you can make yourself the awesome man you are meant to be.
[–]VitruvianMale0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Move on. Dont have to block her but ignore her social media, it's tough to swallow at first but you'll understand in due time. Read the sidebar (should've read before posting, it answers 90% of the questions asked here), for christs sake hit the gym my guy but do it for the right reasons not to get some girl, there will always be more. Hope things work out for you in college bud.
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