What do I do.....

IXseed · 2020-01-16T21:28:25+00:00

Prepare your exit strategy.

See if your rents will let you sleep on their couch while you find your own place.

You need to ditch this bitch asap. It's your priority. The reason she's unhappy all the time is because she knows you're dependent on her. When a man is dependent on a women the woman has ZERO respect for them. I also wouldn't be surprised if she's getting some side dick too.

agoodcrayon · 2020-01-16T22:42:48+00:00

Whatever money you have, save a bit more and buy a crappy used car that can get you from A to B. Get a cheap gym membership that just has the essentials - weights obviously and showers. Anything extra like sauna is a bonus.

Sleep in the car. It’s not a house but it can be your home for now.

Get a second job or just a new job with more income.

Dump your gf.

This whole process will allow you to save some money instead of paying rent.

It will suck but only for a limited time. Quit the video games. Stop stuffing your face with pizza and mac n cheese n soda.

What you’ll be paying for is: cheap car insurance, car fuel, gym membership, food, hygiene products (go to dollar tree).

My local gyms have an admissions fee and most are about $10-20 a month after the fee. You can take care of your hygiene needs there.

If you’re paying anything more than $600 a month for everything, you’re overspending on this type of lifestyle.

How to get a decent car for cheap: this googleable and research can help. If you are mechanically inclined, even better.

Don’t go to a used car dealer. Go on Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace or OfferUp or any other app. Make sure the body of the car is in decent shape. But more-so, the mechanics/tires/axles/suspension/brakes are good.

YouTube is your best friend if anything breaks down - just make up a question of whatever you’re having trouble and I’m sure someone has a walkthrough video on it.

Now make sure the battery is good and the car starts right up. If it has any resistance to to starting it may be related to alternator, starter, batter as the basics which are easy to replace.

Get a car that is not cost affective and is popular.

American made cars between late 90s to 2010 tend to be cheap and still in good running shape. Parts are everywhere and in every junkyard.

Stay away from too high mileage (150k or above). Don’t forget to change the effing oil and make sure coolant levels are good. Again YouTube if you don’t know how!

Obviously depending on the money. If it’s $300 and drives take it.

If you need any more advice PM me.

Domebeers · 2020-01-16T22:10:10+00:00

She's angry all the time because she wants to break up, fyi.

slamdunktiger86 · 2020-01-16T22:13:00+00:00

Fasting is free. It'll help drop down fat and save you money and free up some time as you're processing ketones over glucose.

Just do basic workouts like squats, push ups, sit ups, pull ups, sprints for now till you can afford maybe getting a used barbell or a gym membership.

Massap24 · 2020-01-16T21:30:35+00:00

Start lifting, find a better job that gives you at least a living wage with a roommate, improve your marketable skills either through school or a trade, work ect. Dump the shitty girlfriend. Start reading books on things that interest you particularly ones that can maybe provide income.

Practical-Animal · 2020-01-16T21:39:34+00:00

Game plan on how you're gonna get to college and make more money, you can't take care of yourself working in a restaurant forever. Look into 2 year degrees or something easier that can get you a higher $/hr job than a restaurant can.

Sounds like y'all will breakup at some point if y'all aren't happy so don't worry about that too much you're young

espionagent · 2020-01-16T22:56:10+00:00

Just like other have said...

start lifting but don't just stop there, groom your face, and dress in fitted clothes. find colors that work well for you.

you NEED a college degree. You can't go on living like this.

Atleast a trades certificate.

figure out how you can do that.

you seem to write well. find the least back breaking and high paying trade and see if you can get involved with that.

keep improving yourself. start small. there is no perfection so take it easy. you don't have to do all of the following things at once but read books, meditate, practice affirmations, generate good habits. nothing is, unfortunately owed to you.

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-01-16T21:43:18+00:00

Seriously have a discussion with your parents about the emotionally unhealthy environment you’re living in
Make more money by better job or working more
Eat less carbs, simplest way to lose weight. Keto diet.
Your girlfriend is ideally to be dropped but I’m assuming you can’t afford the place by yourself, try to find roommates on Craigslist and find a place with a dude you gel with and move out without telling her if (1.) doesn’t workout with your parents.

Family is a big support structure man. It’ll slow you to breathe and plan your life.

Also, go to South America for a few weeks when you have some money saved up.

ArnoldBateman · 2020-01-16T21:12:10+00:00

Start lifting and working more to get out

ledsdeadbaby · 2020-01-17T02:23:08+00:00

People may shot on this but the military is an option. It will get you in better shape, teach discipline, eliminate expenditures, provide housing and other basic needs, etc. I know it’s not ideal but if you don’t have any other options it may be worth it.

FrenCan316 · 2020-01-16T22:54:42+00:00

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bigXboi · 2020-01-16T23:06:10+00:00

forget girls until you get your fu money

freedom1117 · 2020-01-16T21:05:53+00:00

Drop your gf for starters.

Title	What do I do.....
Author	Forward_Progress96
Upvotes	7
Comments	22
Date	January 16, 2020 9:04 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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