What to do after first date

SkorchZang · 2014-06-26T02:40:58+00:00

The opposite of what you're thinking. You absolutely let them worry their lil heart out that you're fading.

You let the girls send you texts. They will with few exceptions, and the text will be about random ass shit. Your reaction is to be minimally courteous, ignore the random ass shit she's using as the excuse to talk, and escalate by asking her out for the next date right away. Example:

girl: hey Jake.... I was watching Pride and Prejudice and don't laugh...lol, this guy said sumth that reminded me of you sooooo much...so how are u?

(her subtext: "Do you still like me? Please like meeeee")

you: Hey beautiful... hah how many times did you watch that shit, be honest now... So anyways, I'm free thursday 8pm, let's go out to our lil place? I'd love to see you.

(your subtext: "I see right through you, girl. The only reason you exist to me, is so I can show you a good time Thursday then fuck your brains out, so get with the program.")

You set up a definite time and date a few days into the future, then get right off the texting. Absolutely no back-forth and becoming the girl's emotional tampon.

More rarely I've gotten girls who refuse to send any texts themselves. They're hoping that's going to drive you crazy. Nope.

You just completely ignore them, no texts, for approx. 1 week. At the end of that time, out of the blue text them again (acting like it's nothing special, and nothing happened, because it didn't) and you invite her out for the next date, like usual.

Texting is ONLY for setting up the dates and running naughty aloof asshole game, getting them to send nudies if you're into that kind of thing. Otherwise you should be aiming for all communication and getting to know each other to be in person.

kingofpoplives · 2014-06-26T15:00:21+00:00

If the date went well, you should be making some type of informal agreement to hang out again, even if you don't schedule that actual second date right then.

After that, I usually wait a few days before texting to give them a chance to text me first. If they do text first, it's a very good sign. If they don't, it's no big deal, and I will start a casual text convo, and after a few messages get into the logistics of the second date.

Always aim to match the energy that the girl is giving towards you. If girls want to chat, I'll chat. If they are unresponsive, then I'm unresponsive. Regarding fading, if her a girl seems to be fading on you, then fade her right back, but don't let it go to the point (say longer than one week) where she forgets about you and moves on emotionally.

[deleted] · 2014-06-26T13:45:53+00:00

Got a good demonstration from this girl I started plating this week. I'll post screens later.

Of course, sex came before we went out on a date, as it always should. Girls will give it up for free. You shoudl not date someone hoping for sex; it should have already happened.

Title	What to do after first date
Author	trpthrowaway6
Upvotes	8
Comments	5
Date	June 26, 2014 2:12 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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