What’s better? Ghost or “Hey, it didn’t workout?

Vsaint9 · 2018-11-25T04:48:50+00:00

Depends just how crazy you think she is but i’d go full ghost and block her on everything

CHAD__-__THUNDERCOCK · 2018-11-25T05:17:51+00:00

One other option that is available is to use the gray rock technique if she comes around after ghosting her. The gray rock technique is to act in a way that is so boring or unattractive to them in the way that they will lose interest and break it off with you. The unattractive part needs to sound convincing and can’t be obvious you’re faking it.

Brushyourteethm8 · 2018-11-25T13:58:23+00:00

I would just be assertively honest:

"Hey look - I think you're a great girl and I really like (insert genuine compliments THAT ARE TRUE, e.g. I love your smile, I like that we have similar interests, you look great in those jeans etc.) but I just don't feel like we're clicking" (frame it that the relationship between you isn't sparking rather than her not being good enough)

Her "Blah blah blah"

You: Fog, negative assertion, broken record. "I just want to be open and up front with you"

Her: "Blah blah blah"

You: More of the same, offer to drop her off (or escalate if you're keen physically but she's annoying to speak with).

If you've shown high value and held frame then chances are she'd go along with the escalation (if that's what you want), if not then part ways amicably

EDIT: I personally think that ghosting has its place but is often just used as passive flight

friendandadvisor · 2018-11-25T22:19:21+00:00

Ghosting is my preferred breakup MO.

However, it is my understanding that this hurts the chick more, because it starts their hamster spinning like crazy. OTOH, they may be signaling you to ghost them, or, they may just not give a fuck, so, do as you think best. You're here for YOU, not for her.

Lambdal7 · 2018-11-25T11:06:02+00:00

I think only a very small percentage of people can take a rejection, in all other cases it will end up in a very ugly argument.

So, ghosting is way better for both parties, or I wrong?

HurricaneHugues · 2018-11-25T15:03:45+00:00

Drop and ghost. They never give you the courtesy themselves. So why waste your time.

chazthundergut · 2018-11-25T15:41:05+00:00

You couldn't stand her yapping? Lol she was super interested and talking because she was nervous (and that's all girls want to do is talk)

Its not up to her to escalate the situation or show sexual interest. That is up to you.

She is actually perfect plate material. A girl with high interest, who you have low interest for. See her once a week and dick her down.

SmartAdhesiveness · 2018-11-25T15:41:16+00:00

She sounds immature and lacking in self-confidence. (Probably has daddy issues too.)

You don’t owe her an explanation if you decide not to see her again. But she’s probably fragile emotionally, and, personally, I think the most Red Pill way of treating women is to leave them better than you found them. At least don’t be harsh on the way out.

stawd · 2018-11-25T17:06:10+00:00

Ghost.

You already said “hey, it didn’t work out” on the ride home. She took it like a child, even while you were a gentleman about it. Don’t drag it out, there’s nothing else to be said.

Yoshioi · 2018-11-25T19:38:37+00:00

You told her there's no click. You legitimately made it clear how you felt my dude. So ghost off and find your click. If she pops back in your DMs, well you said your piece already, stand by it.

Title	What’s better? Ghost or “Hey, it didn’t workout?
Author	cant__find__username
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	November 25, 2018 4:44 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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