I'm in my late 20s and grew up with a super religious family in the south. I was sheltered also. You know where this is going so just what is the difference between being what most know as a classy gentleman vs a beta ? Is it just the overall duration and how serious things are?

I also have the " look" where random strangers just trust me because I look soft or like a gentleman anyway. I look much younger. It sucks but sometimes I play up the role. I've acquired certain mannerisms and customs from my family ..but reading on here I'm starting to question the whole thing. I know this is what women want,but myself,how should I carry myself? Can one still be this "gentleman" persona without being a beta somehow?