What's your tinder game?

jb_trp · 2017-11-13T21:40:27+00:00

You're coming off as too thirsty which is a sure way to turn women off. Seduction needs to seem more natural/"mysterious."

I'd suggest removing the shirtless pic, especially if it's a mirror selfie. I might leave it if you're on a tropical beach during a beautiful sunset.

Instead, find clothes that suggest you're jacked, but without trying too hard. Also, keep your bio brief (Mine used to say something like, "Adventures. Indie Music. IPAs.").

When I match with women I simply will say something funny/clever about one of their interests or pics, then usually ask a question. Keep it brief and light.

After a few messages, I'll give them my number. I don't ask, I'll simply tease them a little and give the number in the next message: "If you're promise to not be too crazy, you should text me." Then without waiting for a response, just send them my number.

If a girl asks what you're looking for, be purposefully vague, but answer the question: "I'm open to whatever. I don't really have an agenda. Of course a relationship would be cool with the right chick, but I'm not desperate. Sex is always fun (who doesn't like sex?), but I'm not just looking to get into someone's pants. I say, just meet and see how it goes." An answer like this works 99% of the time for me.

After that arrange a meetup, something near where you or they live (I usually pick near them, make it easy on them) for a drink. Sometimes after exchanging numbers it might switch to flirting/sexting, so sometimes drinks are skipped and the girl asks for a booty call. Most of the time, it's drinks. Try to arrange a meetup within a couple days of getting their number. If they don't show a positive response to meeting, just soft next them and approach other women.

When you meet, greet them with a hug. Focus on your body language, showing confidence and good eye contact. Be relaxed and have fun. At some point, you almost always want to escalate to kissing. Sometimes during drinks, sometimes after (usually helps to isolate the chick, so sometimes I suggest a walk).

From there, some women will invite you back to their place. You might get resistance, but just pass shit tests and be smooth and it'll go well. Some chicks you'll need to meet them a few times before they're ready to fuck.

In my experience: While there are exceptions, the chicks who sleep with you the fastest make so-so plates that don't last long. But there are exceptions. If you play the long game, usually the chick will turn into a longer term plate.

For reference, I'm told I'm cute, I'm not that tall (5'8), have a nice beard, am outdoorsy/adventurous, not totally jacked but in okay shape. Also, I'm in my early 30s.

In33dmon3yz · 2017-11-13T20:13:09+00:00

Probably creeping them out or just being too Much . What Do those pics look like ? Do you have pics with dog or doing something fun?

atticusfinch1973 · 2017-11-13T20:25:52+00:00

Message something witty. Don't waste time and ask them out as soon as possible. Escalate during the first date and make it obvious I'm looking to get laid. Sometimes doesn't happen first date by always by second or third.

Rinse and repeat. If you get a system down you can bang three different women a week.

It's not rocket science.

RedSkeller · 2017-11-13T20:37:30+00:00

You got to figure, every guy on tinder is doing the same thing - and tinder is getting pretty played out in my opinion. I've definitely noticed having less success even though I'm bigger and have better photos up than ever. On top of that there are so many people messaging, it's hard to keep track of it. The meetups I've arranged usually get right to the point in 2 - 3 and exchange numbers and set up a date tuesday - thurs 9pm. I've gotten laid off a more casual and light conversation than one that is sexual or polarized sexually - save that for when you meet up. I'm athletic if that helps.

quicklogaccount · 2017-11-13T22:48:08+00:00

I think what I did was pretty cost effective man.

On Tinder:
"Hi" (wait one or two days after she replied) "I'm fine too. Name, talking through here is a hassle, what's your number?"

On Whatsapp:
"Hi Name, whiteslimshady here. How are you?"
(get answer)
"Where do you live?"
(get answer, answer if she asks back)
"So, are you more of a pub or a party person?"
(Get answer, talk about pubs or clubs you like)
"Oh, you don't know X? That's where we'll meet then. Today/Tomorrow/the day after at 20pm?"
"Oh, I want to know X too"

It works nice but you'll probably exchange some messages with her after the date is set. What you do, shit like that.
If she's not available let her reengage the conversation and say she still owe you / you still owe her / you still owe yourselves a date.

You'll hardly build any more attraction through texting than you already have, but you might lose some to over texting. The messages you'll exchange will be for her to be comfortable meeting you (most chicks aren't but most won't ask for a lot), not to make her horny. Leave that for the date, you'll still bang if you don't hesitate and turn her on properly.
I never really managed to get a green light for fucking before meeting as folks mention here, and I think it's bad game. It's a huge compliance test that you don't need. I still managed to take chicks to fuck in motels in less than an hour though, twice in like two months of tinder.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-11-14T01:36:46+00:00

Got this 9 gag idea where you upload dog picture and put into description: if you looking for bad boy then swipe left cause i am agood boy.

TehJimmyy · 2017-11-13T21:16:00+00:00

0 matches .dont even bother

Title	What's your tinder game?
Author	whiteslimshady
Upvotes	0
Comments	15
Date	November 13, 2017 7:17 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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