TL;DR - I know my value has improved but can’t get the confidence to match it. Help!

Hey all,

As a brief intro: I’ve been a long-time lurker of these forums (4 years). Finding these was borderline life-changing as it confirmed many ideas I had in my head after countless interactions with women. I feel that the most important messages that the Red Pill conveys are accountability and self-improvement - adopting these really puts you in control of your own life, which all men need to be. The massive upgrades in most areas of my life since I’ve decided to take control and stop making excuses are tangibly noticeable, and I am well aware that my SMV has skyrocketed with this. To keep it brief, I have a great job in STEM where I am considered a leader, have accomplished some big things and made some decent money. I’m well-dressed, well-groomed and in the best shape of my life (5’8”, 195lbs with 7%bf...I won’t get into my lifting totals but I’m a strong dude). Decent social life (on the way back up after monk mode). I’m fluent in 2 languages. I have a lot to offer and I know it.

I’m reading this and it sounds like I’m bragging, but for some reason, I can’t translate this into confidence with women to save my life. I’ve tried to internalize everything about not putting them on a pedestal, not seeking their validation and simply being the prize. However, while it’s easy to think about these things when I’m sitting here on my phone, my mind always falls back to old habits when I’m talking to or texting a girl.

This is hurting my game to the point where I recently had a girl give me a completely unsolicited number and I managed to go full beta and mess it up. Though that particular situation is obviously done, I’d like to use it as a wake up call and do something to fix this. However, I don’t know where to start which is why I’m coming to you all. What do you gentlemen do to get out of old beta habits with women? It can’t be as difficult as I’m making it out to be, but it has certainly been a struggle for me.

Thank you all in advance.