When do you open up?

AboveNBeyond7866 · 2021-04-14T04:39:56+00:00

Never. Just remember, the day you open up she's gone the next day. Even if she acts like she has sympathy for you, she will use your weakness in the future against you.

Women cannot love unconditionally. It's not in their nature. You want to open up? Open up with your homies. But never with any women. Even if your drunk or anything (that's when most people open up) don't drink near her. The most brutal pill to swallow is women can't love unconditionally, indeed. And, knowing this just manipulate the rules for your benefit.

Women want to break you. Yes, that's why theres all the shi tests. And one of the biggest is when she says "open up" and remember, once she sees you as weak emotionally, it's over for you. No matter how physically strong you are. You must remain emotionally stoic with women at all times.

319Skew · 2021-04-14T05:53:54+00:00

When you want to kill the relationship.

rahrahrudy · 2021-04-14T04:54:03+00:00

There isn’t one unfortunately. That’s part of trp. You don’t open up to a woman. Only person you can probably open up to is your mother but even then she might not get you or fully understand you.

SatyaNi · 2021-04-14T06:34:55+00:00

Never.

Ever.

Unless, for some reason, you want to diminish how attractive you are to her.

Edit : soelling

rawrlolrofl · 2021-04-14T04:37:08+00:00

never. you can never open up to a woman completely, ever. she will love it at first because its new but she'll see you as less of a man and over time lose attraction. think about it, its the difference between a blue pill man and a red pill one. i have one caveat that i follow, heard it on here as well... during sex. if you're doing the sex god method and shit like that, you can be as emotional as you want as long as you're dominant as well. but in general, you can never open up to a woman. that's a blue pill fantasy that you need to learn to let go of.

TheDevilPutD · 2021-04-14T07:28:19+00:00

Whenever you want. Vulnerability is actually the ultimate alpha move. You are laying your vulnerability on the table and you are not afraid she will jump on it with both stilettos. It's the same reason when men are confident we open up our legs and body. We actually expose vulnerable parts (balls, tummy, neck) to others telling them "I'm not afraid of you and you can't hurt me".

kyondayo · 2021-04-14T11:45:03+00:00

TL;DR - If you are both emotionally stable, go for it.

You've honestly have gotten decent advice from most of the people saying "never" and also u/TheDevilPutD.

I think most women push for men to "open up" and share their emotions. Talking and sharing is the way women connect with others. I'd say, don't trust most women with this. It can be easy to overshare when someone you're romantically involved with is encouraging this. But I think just like with friends or family, we don't want to throw emotional burdens on others when we don't have a handle of them ourselves. When we choose to share these deeply personal things, its a positive thing but we have to be strategic and thoughtful when we do this. Also, your mental strength, confidence, and ability to handle rejection should be high.

So, do you trust the woman? Is she feminine and angelic? Does she respect your boundaries? Is she a good listener? Like, truly a listener and non-judging? Then this is a *human* you might be safe opening up to regardless of gender. Taking the risk to be vulnerable is a brave thing and the ultimate alpha act as u/TheDevilPutD said. When a man I respect decides to become vulnerable with me (in a non-train wreck way), I consider it a honor and my mind switches to trusted-friend mode. I have to withdraw my feminine expectations so I can be what he needs at that moment.

Source:

I've had a hard friend-zoned male that I've grown closer with over the past year who is vulnerable with me and I've found my friend-zone boundaries are dissolving. He used to be a mess years ago but he's become a man with a strong grasp and understanding of any mental turmoil he suffers with. That's hawt af, gentlemen.
I've got a male I've had a near strictly sexual relationship with who recently brought up some vulnerability and I understood he needed a friend and so I just turned my listening ears on. He of course withdrew after this so I understood he has to regain himself. That's a big step for him. Low key, I've always knew he had a lot he was dealing with on his own because of how guarded he was. So, I gained respect for him in this situation. That's a step in a direction towards me being able to consider him more than just a fuck buddy.
Conversely, I've been in relationships with men who were just falling all over himself a mess so I couldn't respect him or trust that he could regain control of his situation. See male #1. This is why he got friend-zoned (I used to fuck him a lot).
I've also had a female close friend (who pushed hard for me to open up) with who I eventually became vulnerable with and she ditched the fuck out of me when I really needed her even though I was there for her through all her stupid bull shit for years. Our relationship is "toxic" is what she said. I've watched her force her male to open up and then use it against him as well. Called her out on that shit too. She's an example of an individual not deserving or capable of protecting anyone's vulnerability.

MoreAlfa · 2021-04-14T15:00:31+00:00

Since I'm sure you have read the sidebar, when does it say to "open up"?

TheSmile_10 · 2021-04-14T18:35:41+00:00

Depends on how you define "open up". Generally speaking never if it comes from a place of needing compassion and/or feeling self pity etc.

Feeling is, after all, what is primary to us. If you can never open up or be emotional then what's the point of an LTR? You will take life too seriously and I'm afraid that you might miss the point of living.

I will live however the fuck I want and if a plate/LTR is not OK with that that's fine. She can gtfo from my life.

BUT, you must minimise emotionalism. That's a big part of masculinity, realise when it's OK and try to have a stoic approach.

Title	When do you open up?
Author	GambinosDisciple
Upvotes	5
Comments	24
Date	April 14, 2021 4:34 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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