When I approach men why are they completely terrified (I am a black woman btw)

CrazyHorseInvincible · 2018-11-27T09:29:24+00:00

You clearly are seeking some kind of validation. That is not what this group is here for.

bosshawg502 · 2018-11-26T22:50:43+00:00

If you're actually a woman and not a troll the reason is pretty simple

metoo ruined everything.

self-medicate · 2018-11-26T22:52:21+00:00

Go to redpillwomen

gregoire_ · 2018-11-26T23:12:38+00:00

They’re just not used to it or they’re not into you. It’s not often that women actually approach men, even good looking ones. They don’t know how to react. It’s just nerves so keep shooting your shots if you think they’re attracted to you

kooreh · 2018-11-26T22:52:10+00:00

They are taken by surprise and they get "weird", what probably is just shyness and nervousness, because this doesn't happen to men at all.

If they are blue pilled, (and most likely they are) they are basically terrified and don't want to fuck it up. Then they think they fucked up anyways because you blocked them.

The alternative is that they don't find you attractive.

To find out be a human being and have some patience before blocking them.

no_delay1 · 2018-11-26T23:12:44+00:00

Too much soy.

caneyfan · 2018-11-26T23:36:26+00:00

Could it be you have a certain expectation of how these interactions are supposed to go and it doesn’t go that way because it may not be a realistic expectation? Maybe you come off as arrogant? Again, I have no way of knowing because lack of context, but if every interaction you have is this way then I tend to look inward at myself...which is essentially what we do here (TRP). We try to understand the why and look to improve ourselves by changing the only thing we can. Ourselves. We’re not blaming anyone but ourselves for our failures in life, relationships, etc and stop doing things that result in undesired outcomes. More often than not our previous failures are due to ignorance of what the opposite sex finds appealing vs what we’d incorrectly intuited.

forever_alpha · 2018-11-27T01:01:02+00:00

Why does it matter that you are black?

First:

I hope you know that charisma (the vibe people feel around you) is nothing but your internal attitude which is carried to the outside. If you already think / feel that your race is a disadvantage - or even something that plays a huge role - people will notice that (and most likely interpret it as you being insecure)

Second:

What kind of men do you talk to? What are you looking for? Even though many men may find you attractive that doesnt mean that everyone does. I get that there is some kind of beauty standard for women but there will be guys that just are not immediately blown away by your presence. Maybe they were just not into you. Deal with it.

Third:

Most women want men to make the first step. It has always been like that. There is no real appeal in something that you don't have to work for as a man. There is more than enough literature that tells you how "female game" works. I can already tell you it doesn't go like this. Most men just don't work like that. If its not enough to be attractive and open for flirting (eye contact, smile etc.) - with the meaning of "no one comes to approach you" - they are either too insecure or simply not into you.

Oh and by the way:

If they are really terrified you're doing something wrong. It sounds quite uncalibrated to say the least.

failingtheturingtest · 2018-11-27T02:39:18+00:00

Aww she's back. We missed you!

How's your white, brunette friend doing by the way? She was cute.

For the spectators here, she is a regular asktrp troll who returns time and time again seeking either validation or to start a race issue. Stop engaging her.

Edit: unless she introduces us to her cute friend. Then she's cool

QuantumSpecter · 2018-11-26T22:50:01+00:00

Im surprised you decided to post this here. Not really sure if this sub can help you. But idk maybe people will have some answers.

But just because you tell them you like them doesnt mean they will automatically like you. You might not be their type or they might not find your personality appealing

NolanKnowstheTruth · 2018-11-26T22:55:03+00:00

There's nothing wrong with your looks, so it must be something else....huge slut, bi-polar, gold digger, soul sucking succubus, single mum.

Huge Slut?- tell them all you want is sex. Be more forward. Bi-Polar? - tell them all girls are bi and that it's his job to figure out if you're bi-polar or bi-sexual and give him a wink. Gold-Digger? - fucking shame on you. Get a job and support yourself. Soul Sucking succubus? - shhhhh we already know. Single Mum? - Good luck.

caneyfan · 2018-11-26T23:12:54+00:00

There’s a lot of context missing to provide anything helpful in return. Perhaps an example where you can paint a picture of who, what, when, where?

The simplest explanation is you could be intimidating the men you are approaching because it is highly unlikely they’ve been approached that directly. They’re freezing in the moment.

As another poster suggested, you’ll likely have better responses posting this question in redpillwomen.

kyzen142 · 2018-11-27T00:43:27+00:00

Women almost never do that. Women are indirect in their approach and the way you do it is just so unusual that guys probably think you are fucking with them.

Variasvezes · 2018-11-27T02:01:25+00:00

A black women on reddit lol Nice troll

But if its not a troll its simple stop aproaching white boys and aproach some brothers

No disrespect but if u aproached some real niggas they would be hittin that in a hour

U fine too

Theyozman · 2018-11-27T02:46:36+00:00

You're hot. I'd be all over that I don't know what kind of losers you're approaching.

dukes1998 · 2018-11-27T02:47:29+00:00

Well, judging by the fact that I've seen you post essentially this exact same post on this board multiple times, I think you'd be smart to listen to me: your personality is toxic.

If that is you, you're clearly very attractive. I'm not super into black girls, but you're definitely someone I'd find good looking. I'd say 90% of guys will be attracted to you from the git go.

That being said, why are you struggling to find a guy? You have a race complex, first off. I realize being a black woman probably isn't easy, but that isn't why you're struggling. You're struggling because, it seems like, you are desperate for a man and really don't want to be approaching, but feel the need to because you're unsatisfied. Therefor when you do approach, and don't get the type of reactions you're expecting (are you asking these guys for a LTR or a hookup) you get very offended and ghost them. This clearly leads to a vicious cycle and you wondering what you're doing wrong, as I'm sure you see much less attractive women much more satisfied.

My advice? Stop being desperate, be up front about what you want and don't take rejection or apprehension personally and certainly don't blame it on race. Beyond that, take a good hard look (psychedelics??) at yourself and find out where your personality can improve and do so.

Rkingpin · 2018-11-27T08:53:09+00:00

Begone

Johnnadawearsglasses · 2018-11-27T00:30:56+00:00

Master level troll until you threw the Harvard and MIT bit into the comment section. I would delete that bit.

Ps - I am saddened to see so many TRP guys falls for this BS. You all are awful thirsty.

Title	When I approach men why are they completely terrified (I am a black woman btw)
Author	jytyuyu
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Date	November 26, 2018 10:36 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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metoo ruined everything.