When you first started spinning plates, did you get depressed to?

kruxofthemimed · 2017-05-29T07:26:21+00:00

You have been programmed by culture to have certain expectations about sexual relationships. You have been told they will bring you unwavering happiness and comfort. Because you are lacking purpose in your life as a whole your brain is trying to piece together some reason for existence to justify the stress of life.. it's trying to conflate sexual relationships with meaning, because they bring about significant levels of emotions, however you logically understand that the romanticized view of relationships you have been brainwashed with is bullshit so your brain is reeling in depression from a false narrative it still sort of wants to believe in.

Best way to cure this? In my opinion you are wanting to cure something that is inherent to human consciousness. If we didn't have such a deep rooted desire to create meaning and purpose in our lives we would be complacent. Accept the reality that these feelings are truly just biological motivators for action, and create some internal goals to satiate the hunger for a while. My goal is personally atm to become such a high value person that I finally respect myself to the degree that I would like. I'm getting there, and considering it's been less than half a year since I swallowed the pill I'm optimistic as hell with my progress.. but on the flip side, I feel incredibly lost in terms of a career path/way to contribute to society, and it makes me feel really depressed sometimes to the point where I don't know how long I can take the grind, you know? It's life man. Just gotta accept it, grab your balls, and keep marching forward. Keep challenging yourself and exposing yourself to different environments and I'm sure you'll find your calling eventually.

vandaalen · 2017-05-29T08:18:43+00:00

Well. You maybe want to put some thought into analyzing what you define as "love".

You might end up realizing, that it is just you being selfish and insecure and are projecting those things onto women, and want them to feel the same, so you can "possess" them like a treasure.

You need to get that shit out of your head. True love does indeed exist. It is just not the way you want it to be.

Also just because women's love is not unconditional, does not mean it is absent and you yourself are probably also not loving unconditionally, but because of the feelings you are getting from the women.

veganishell · 2017-05-29T12:42:57+00:00

Love is just feeling you have someone you can reproduce with and perpetuate your genetic code.

You're sad cause you have sex without thinking this will result in babies and shit. Your brain is the prison. So fuck your brain.

prodigy2throw · 2017-05-29T14:32:48+00:00

Mine was similar but I think the reasoning was a bit different. I was actually sad and crushed to see real evidence that kindness, caring, affection (in the traditional sense) was almost damaging to women's attraction for me.

It was a strange eye opener when you learn that the most selfish acts make you the most attractive int he eyes of women

lesbocatrape · 2017-05-29T16:28:57+00:00

-Did I go back into the sadness phase? Yes.

-How do I get over this shit? See how women can turn evil before/after marriage (refer to family court injustices to men / false rape accusations and shit like that)

-Does this hollow feeling of knowing love is an illusion ever go away? Yes, it goes away after you accept (not hate) women for what they really are; shallow materialistic selfish evil pieces of talking sex toys. Be glad you're not married, be grateful you won't lose your children/money/life to a bitch. Be happy you can see what most Men can't.

Even if you get companionship from a woman and you start a family together based on pure love, kittens and butterflies, no matter how good you're doing financially/physically/sexually she will most likely (>50%) cheat on you, take your children away from you, take away most of your money, maybe send your ass to jail just for the lulz, and date your best friend (and repeat the same process with him).

But we still have that piece of doubt in our hearth; what if nothing bad happens to us? What if we live happily ever after like in movies?

brinkleybuzz · 2017-05-29T15:12:32+00:00

I know I will never get companionship from my women.

Your expectations for women are way too high. If you want a female soulmate who will love you unconditionally, live with your mother. If you want a companion who will listen to whatever you have to say, get a dog. If you want companions who are fun to hang out with, look at and smash, enjoy your plates.

ronaldobob · 2017-05-29T07:38:12+00:00

Dude, if you're more happy in LTR, go for it! Just follow some redpill guidelines for how to keep her in check. Maybe look at marriedtrp for tips

PM_ME_HOT_GINGERS · 2017-05-29T15:16:39+00:00

Why even have fuck buddies if you don't feel like you get anything out of it?

Pitchfork51 · 2017-05-30T07:58:40+00:00

No. I realized I'm an introvert. I like space and my alone time.

I'm very outgoing and like to have fun but honestly I didn't like constant communication and that crap.

Title	When you first started spinning plates, did you get depressed to?
Author	SmoothBeliever
Upvotes	27
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Date	May 29, 2017 6:19 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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