Where did I go wrong?

Blackhawk2479 · 2020-12-01T10:04:39+00:00

Can't be bothered to read all that, put a TLDR in there.

I'll assume your problem is that you're focussing all your efforts on one girl - oneitis - and you're micro-analysing all of your interactions with her instead of being able to read a situation and act accordingly.

A sample size of one is not going to tell you anything meaningful - it is a numbers game. Talk to more girls.

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Subutai_Baghatur · 2020-12-01T10:18:03+00:00

Do you think me teasing her about the fact I was aware I was discussed was bad for any reason or I just imagined this? If so, why?

Yes it was a bad decision. Girls prefer things to be natural

you have muscles: good genes, not hard work

you’re giving her feels: you’re a natural charmer, not implementing things you’ve read on Reddit

you fuck her good: you’re an actual sex good, not actually read The Sex God Method

you asked her out: you were so taken by her that you just had to ask her out and you had the confidence to face rejection, not heard from someone else that she already liked you.

At what point do you believe was the turning point where the girls vagina dried up? When I teased her? when I kept bringing up what I had meant when I teased her? When she started shit testing me again and I possibly failed the shit tests (it had definitely become drier at the minimum by this point obviously I’m aware of this)?

You could have turned it around after the tease. By constantly bringing it up and DEERing, you were constantly bringing those negative feelings of the tease back to the surface while simultaneously displaying outcome dependence. This is my interpretation.

What could I have done to save it? Or was it completely gone as soon as it was lost?

Stop talking so much. You were in a position to escalate but you ruined that by opening your mouth.

Once you realised she was withdrawing after the tease, you should have changed the subject, what you were both doing and or the setting. You want to get her out of that state by changing what she’s feeling, not by talking about what she’s feeling.

throw-away-1709 · 2020-12-01T10:40:34+00:00

Dear diary. This date was sub par. I have written a wall of text at reddit and my brooootthhhhaeehrss will help me (sobb sobb sobb)

Guy ! If you're not gay.... escalate til you get a NO! or a slap.

Be bold or cold. Never think or wait. Do.

Title	Where did I go wrong?
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