Why do girls approach guys?

Tidalnightmare · 2018-10-31T00:04:01+00:00

Women approach men they have observed, and liked what they see. This is the ultimate, as it means you have your shit together so well, that by unconsciously going about your business, you get them frothy.

Aim for this.

duskyMonk · 2018-10-31T00:27:45+00:00

Cuz she wants the D. If a chick messages you first on tinder, you're in as long as you don't fuck it up. Demonstrate your value with your lack of fucks vibe and set up the appointment to smash.

freew33zy · 2018-10-31T01:32:44+00:00

the most common reason to approach is because girls see you as high value and think youre unlikely to approach them. my ltr approached me in a class lecture where i just had headphones on and was chillin. obviously it being a lecture i wasnt the most enthusiastic to talk to chicks (sometimes i do though) so she knew/thought that and took the opportunity herself. we're in a two-year one-way open relationship now so as you can see if a girl approaches you you're pretty golden.

another reason for approach is if they just want to fuck and fuck anyone decent. sometimes only shitters approach them so they go seek out someone who at least looks ok. but paragraph one is more common (except maybe at parties, and even then, its usually more of a combination of the two)

TRPKiddo · 2018-10-31T01:09:48+00:00

I went to a party school the other weekend. Girls literally approach you because they’re hornier than you are. Crazy stuff.

FatmanO · 2018-10-31T10:52:25+00:00

Cause they are attractive. Its not holding frame or anything else, its simply attraction.

MrCongeniality1 · 2018-10-31T02:03:06+00:00

It feels great to be approached, but of all the women I have dated, the ones that approached me all ended up being psycho in the end. The girls that were reserved at first ended up being decent and stable. Could just be my sample, but I am inclined to believe that women who approach do so because of some deep neediness that is going to eventually fuck things for you.

mrpoopistan · 2018-10-31T03:06:29+00:00

It's a gambit.

(Some) women approach when they're in full FOMO mode. They're afraid that if they don't approach, they're going to miss out on a great shot at a guy who is either at the edge of the the 2-point rule (she's a 6, he's an 8) or who's outside of her range.

You can usually guess how far out of her range you are by how she comports herself. If she comes off as a dirty old man, you're waaay outside her league. If she approaches you and tries to induce you into doing the rest of the work, then you're right at the edge of her range.

Bear in mind that some women will never approach. Others will orbit and act like that's the same as approaching (the classic "I stood within 10 feet of him and barely made any eye contact . . . I'm such a slut!" approach).

There are also a few women who get really pissed when a guy's response doesn't match her estimate of her own attractiveness. I've had women approach me, flirt and get downright combative because I just don't have a really hardcore "hey, babe" vibe ever. These women are essentially approaching in order to fix a glitch in the matrix -- and they're easily the best ones to play mean games with.

Don’t they want the man to show his frame by approaching?

You're really overthinking it.

In that moment, she doesn't have a fuckin clue what she really wants. She just has a nervous/anxious feeling, and it just happens to be that a sense of fear that she might miss out compels her. Or, the guy is so far out of her league that she's basically hoping that an offer fast ass might buy her a ticket, and then she'll figure out how to make it to Day Two after she survives Night One.

Why do girls approach guys?

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"If she comes off as a dirty old man, you're waaay outside her league."

Title	Why do girls approach guys?
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Date	October 30, 2018 11:59 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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