Why do I always push myself into mediocrity even though I don't want to?

Wave94 · 2020-08-14T22:16:26+00:00

Honestly, I find if I don’t sleep 8 hours or so my motivation the next day is not as strong.

Sleep is king for everything, fat loss, repairing the muscles, balancing neurotransmitters including dopamine which is linked to drive.

NabroleonBonaparte · 2020-08-14T23:39:53+00:00

Sounds like you’re forcing yourself to do a bunch of random shit for no reason. Might be a sign of anxiety.

brosky7331 · 2020-08-14T23:11:29+00:00

Ypu need to have a reason, a purpose to be disciplined

tharzog-788 · 2020-08-15T01:06:29+00:00

Not clinical advice, and I’m just a guy on the Internet, but Take a big risk. whether it’s in your career or in where you live, or whatever. For me it was my career and it’s paid off tenfold. When your back is against the wall, you have no choice but to focus and perform. You’ve gotta be willing to put in the work following the decision tho, if that makes sense...

cluelessguitarist · 2020-08-15T00:47:12+00:00

Try not to be mediocre, create good habits, be strict with yourself. Just one step in the thousend mile road my friend.

"Well being is attained little by little,and nevertheless is no little thing itself" --Zeno of Citium--

0208Smat · 2020-08-14T23:51:11+00:00

I feel you, I'm kinda on the same spot. I'm on week 3 of nofap and been feeling like a zombie lately. Like someone mentioned above, I believe quality sleep is crucial.

If you haven't already, I recommend you take a look at Jocko Willink's and David Goggins's material. My dad is a big fan of both and believe me, he has his shit together.

drink_it_in_maaaaan · 2020-08-15T01:13:29+00:00

Maybe tackle your problems one by one starting with porn first. Idk if it was in your previous post about PMO but someone suggested this book and it truly changed my perspective. Read the book cover-to cover (its ~70 pages so not that long) and build up a nofap streak. Your mind will become much clearer which will hopefully help you focus and discipline yourself better. Hope that helps.

jm51 · 2020-08-15T12:14:03+00:00

Many years ago, I saw one of those cringy tv shows where people confessed their bad habits.

A woman was talking about how she'd go out clubbing with the best of intentions. Then she'd have one too many and became a slut. Often bedding 2 or more guys that night. In the morning, she'd hate herself. The audience reaction was as you may guess. Many calls for her to start respecting herself etc.

I'd have gone the other way and would suggest that she gave herself permission to have a slutty night once in a while. I don't see how her going out with the intention of having a dirty night can be worse than 'failing' and hating herself in the morning.

You could do the same. Give yourself permission to have a regular porn night. Maybe once a week. Or once a month if you can manage that. It's going to happen anyway, so be in control.

maltesefalcon4321 · 2020-08-15T00:56:07+00:00

Jocko podcast, episode 215, start at 1:17:45

(not about waking up at 4:30)

his 6-7 minute rant there about finding discipline has helped me, it's worth a listen, maybe it will speak to you as well

2020-08-15T01:43:41+00:00

Comfort.

Estebano_7 · 2020-08-15T01:48:55+00:00

You need to read the 10x Rule by Grant Cardone

ataria_ · 2020-08-15T04:19:23+00:00

Check out Atomic Habits (there’s a great summary on Reddit). Also short-term goals aren’t that effective as there’s a loss of motivation and meaning after reaching them. Appreciating the practice in itself and betterment of yourself, while still having milestones is more effective.

JaevonTheDon · 2020-08-15T06:23:52+00:00

Me stopping porn gave me a motivation boost

WickedMo13 · 2020-08-15T09:17:37+00:00

What is your why?

Find the WHY

ValorElite · 2020-08-15T17:25:42+00:00

I would ask do you have a job? I know we are in a Covid-induced recession, but what is your current position? Is it a decent job where you get to do what you like or is it energy draining?

Finding a job that I liked to do was the most important part of getting myself to that next level.

WeRAllOne · 2020-08-15T01:09:42+00:00

What are you pointing the LIGHT of your conscious gnosis towards? In other words, what is the highest adulation of providence and provenance that ye seeketh to obtain? If thou hast no end goal, then the recompense of thy journey shall be seen to thyself in full from day unto day. Firstly, KNOW that thy soul is immortal, and it lives forever. Woud'st thou degrade it as much then? The light of this gnosis has the ability to transform your inner psyche to not only conform, but utterly pummel into the dust the past vices of thy actions. Go forth with the LIGHT that your soul is immortal, then surely ye shall become wise and mend thy day to day actions and vices. Will they all be destroyed immediately? No, they shall not, as like myself. Yet instead becoming as water slowly dripping upon a rock to wither away your vices (porn and the like), ye shall take a hammer and chisel to your vices... and therefore change your immortal spirit forever. Best wishes, brother.

Title	Why do I always push myself into mediocrity even though I don't want to?
Author	mrkinix
Upvotes	34
Comments	25
Date	August 14, 2020 10:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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