Ok, m38 here, met my wife (33) six years ago. Sex and intimacy part started to decline slowly at first after the 1 yearmark. My wife hasnt made initiatives towards sex in a very long time, we have sex almost always on my initiative which used to be maybe once a week or 2 weeks.

Currently we have sex maybe once a month. I dont feel wanted in this relationship and have lost my interest as well (recently) but im still thinking of wanting to save this marriage despite starting to look elsewhere as of recently.

Regarding our charachters we are quite different. She is more reserved, sensitive but much unable to show her feelings and affection. I require and like to show my emotion both in good and bad ways. She is a perfectionist and I only do what is necessary so to speak. She claims much of the lack of interest on her part is because she works long hours and I dont do my parts of chores and dont take responsibility in life in general, which is partially true, I have made some progression in this regard but rarely if ever get noticed, it is always about what hasnt been done. This is what drives me insane the most, lack of any positive emotions or feedback towards me in any way (sexual, non sexual, physical, vocal). I dont feel wanted at all.

Im financially well off and am very fit (work out regularly/am into various sports), objectively told im physically right in the 2% of my age class. I dress well, overall there is nothing wrong in the looks department. My wife is very beautiful, she has gained a little extra weight in the past years but still is somewhat sexually appealing atleast to me.

I have had loads of sexual and romantical interest shown towards me by much younger, beautiful and intelligent women in near past, my wife is not stupid and should know this.. Why my wife isnt interested in me is is baffling and is driving me out of this relationship. To me this seems a like a sort struggle for power as we both seem somewhat selfish regarding our overall behaviour and discussions..