Workplace bully advice

kclanton80 · 2020-01-01T00:51:52+00:00

A lot of times in these situations people will rag on you as a rite of passage. The most important thing is to show that it does not bother you. You can tease them back engage with them in response.

Again this is really a shit test to see if you're weak minded and you will fold. All your co-workers have had bad days and bad stretches at that job. Just remember that.

Once you get better and more comfortable at the job everything will be fine. Just don't give up and don't give in. Most importantly take the ribbing as good-natured and don't take it personally. It's just something men do to each other.

bigmacked4 · 2020-01-01T00:36:43+00:00

Your plan is sound, execute it and see what changes and what still needs improvement.

On another note, your job is one of the hardest to do. Extremely stressful, extremely traumatic at times. You're on the frontlines of western society. You frequently see people going through the worst experiences of their lives and it takes a toll on everyone involved.

You and your coworkers are under the same stress. Don't feel badly when someone acts in a socially uncalibrated manner. Laugh it off and move on.

Your team will be your backbone. They (and those who do the same job) are the only ones who truly understand what its like. Dont isolate yourself from them, keep working on integrating yourself.

This is counter-rp but my suggestion in THIS SPECIFIC SITUATION (given the nature of the job) would be to take a more openly subordinate role to the more experienced guys. Remember, you're the new guy here. Learn from them, ask questions, grow. With time you'll be welcomed into the family. Don't try to AMOG your way around this one, the stakes are too high.

Edit:

Also lift and keep your cardio up. It'll be helpful on the job.

Cocopopo3 · 2020-01-01T08:17:00+00:00

South park season 16 episode 5 .

Go watch it ,

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-01-01T03:35:53+00:00

Roast him back and laugh. Then tell him to get back to work. Bullies are always lazy fuckers. Stop letting him trigger you like a bee buzzing around.

I haven't been the best at my job. I had some pretty traumatic jobs right out of the academy and then got seriously injured on the job, these issues along with a crazy sleep schedule left me a little unconfident in my skills and unenthusiastic about the my profession.

Incorrect. You've been great at your job and the people you've served who were in actual trouble have been 95% grateful for your help. (Unfortunately you can't please everyone. Even on an emergency some people find time to be dicks.)

I don't know why your punk-bitch co-worker even bothers. You're doing a far better job of undermining yourself and bullying yourself than he ever could. He whines and bitches at you once or twice a week. You do it to yourself every damn hour.

I suspect he's just following your lead in this respect. Bullies love sticking their fingers in people's insecurities.and then letting them do all the work for them.

You just have to realize they're little kids at heart. They'll find ways to exploit adult's insecurities- because they're bored and can't think of anything better to do. Stop treating him like an adult.

I got a bit of a reputation for being spacey and not the best worker.

There are only two people who give a shit about these particular insecurities, and among those, the person who gives three times as many shits is you.

You win when you stop giving a shit and roast him back. You win when you choose to be almost irrationally self-confident instead.

My partner for that day started giving me shit for it IMMEDIATELY. He started saying I'm the new (insert station reject's name here) at the station and kept ragging on me.

Should have roasted him back.

Meanwhile, I worked with him the week before and everything was totally fine. I told him "Hey, I know I'm having a bad day, but I'll be better next time and won't make these mistakes again.

You apologized to someone who was being a massive cunt-bitch to you. Why, it's not like you were the one busting his balls. Why wasn't he apologizing?

Always DARE. Never DEER.

- I'm showing up for work 20 minutes early from now on to check the ambulance and prepare for my tour.

Cut that crap out. Stop being a Try-Hard Timmy just because you feel inferior to you cunt-bitch middle-school mentality coworker. Show up 5 minutes early

thrwy75479 · 2020-01-01T06:20:26+00:00

I don't believe you're dealing with a bully. rather, you are dealing with a barometer.

your work performance has been shoddy and the team patriarch is calling your ass out. and he's being nice about it. were he to be truly malicious he would do it only behind your back and he would not joke with you to your face rather they would all ignore you.

when you successfully measure up to the team standard, you will likely be rewarded by this alpha. rewarded with increasing degrees of acceptance. but keep in mind that you now have a horn affect at your workplace -- this means that mistakes will be more costly, and achievements will only earn you inches.

VictxrSenpai · 2020-01-01T17:03:01+00:00

Just be straight up and tell him that you may not be the best but your trying to get your shit together and tell him seriously to stop fucking around and act like a grown adult because your job is to save lives not bullshit

hopelesshotel · 2020-01-01T00:58:41+00:00

kill them

dadfrombrad · 2020-01-01T08:48:11+00:00

Bullying you because he’s a psychopath and subconsciously sees you have lower serotonin levels than him.

We almost always advocate against drugs, but one time I took MDMA (i.e. seratonin booster) before going to work and embarrassed the fuck out of every workplace bully in front of their female coworkers. People were flocking to my side and mobbing against the both of them- a delightful experience for me

Since then their performance has droppped and one of them quit and the other got fired for poor performance shortly after.

TLDR: Take MDMA before work and dominate your bullies psychologically

screechhater · 2020-01-01T17:42:18+00:00

You cannot afford to fuck up in what you do.

Be the bigger person and laugh all this off.

Yes, show up early, make your own list and check it off. Make sure to discipline yourself to use a list no matter how fucking big it is.

This is about you and your rep, take what you do serious, workout, meal prep and have all your shit in order. It will show.

I’m not in your field but I do go on the job prepared. I have a ton of shit to do what I do, but then I get the fuck out.

Getting shit is a right of passage. There are a lot of people that will give you shit because they like you. There are those that will not talk to the incompetent fuck

It’s time to take RP serious and realize the brevity of what you do and manhood. There is no fucking around or mistakes with what you do.

Strike a balance though

Title	Workplace bully advice
Author	Grinning_Wolf
Upvotes	26
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Date	December 31, 2019 10:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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