I'm also not getting younger anyhow but I've had exes or relationships where the woman's clearly more successful than I. The only caveat is 2 out of 3 of them were single mothers. In my experience, women who already have children moved out (mostly they're the early 40s and beyond) have given me zero drama. They're also awesome for super far orbiter roles. Not to put on some weird oedipus complex glasses but it's also nice to be treated or taken out to because they know I'm a broke AMF.

To get to the point, I've been having a semi LTR w/ one, but she's "yet" to get to that stage of not giving a fuck. Constantly pushes for exclusivity, but have combated it w/ hints about my lifestyle, I'm deadset on being my own man, even when life is difficult. But she's been trying to lovebomb me and I don't want to develop some kind of reliance on both her emotional and financial support. It wouldn't hurt, right? But again, I don't like the feeling of "using" her OR anyone. In general, these types of women tend to surprise me w/ something pricey and as a man who is always used to being a "provider" (buying coffee for my dates as an example) this feels a little weird, I feel indebted. String tied. Again, some older women are mature enough not to go all falling in love but I wonder if anyone has navigated this sort of dynamics (older, more successful women) and what did you do to not be an asshole? Obviously, I think having my own self support is way better than receiving it from a single (albeit successful) mother but what if she has (for example) a house, a condo, and two cars?

How did you deal with successful women love bombing you, showing you that you can use her nice cars, can have a decent place, get support etc. disguised for exclusivity? In my example, she seems to be fancying the idea of me being a primary in a possible OLTR, and the status help could boost me but again, we can never know.

How did you deal with women who are more succesful than you are? You've got your shit together, obviously, she just makes more money than you do, is it always inevitable even on the first date?