Since my last post got some attention, i wanted to make a more practical guide with some specific things I've done that worked and things that i consider to be true, and some overall gaming. Not in any particular order. And of course, feel free to disagree as long as the conversation is civil and bring good arguments.

1. When on a date, any date, try and breach the contact barrier as fast as possible. Touch her in a natural way as soon as possible, on the arm, on the shoulder, on the back, neutral points but touching is really important to flirting. Then, when u later go for the kiss, it's not gonna be weird and out of the blue. The whole kiss at the end of the date stuff is crap

2. This one is a bit weird but especially for inexperienced guys it helps. I did it a few times and grounds you. Make a list of things that will help you during the date. " kiss her, she probably wants it too, if the interaction is going well " or " maybe she is not showing overt hints that she likes you but she's on a date with u, laughs at your jokes and is feeling good so move things along" or " yeah, she's really hot but she has insecurities too and it's always better to say it didn't work out then to say that you're stupid for not trying " . Take a bathroom break, read the list, take a few deep breaths and go for it, you got it champ. I know it's cringey but remember we are humans and we can't always control our emotions so it can help you make logical steps. I've lost way too many girls cuz i didn't have the guts to go in for the kiss cuz i had no "clear signs"

3. Find some fun fillers. And by that, i mean have some good stories to tell, funny ones, or games. I used to do the 5 lies game or the cube. It's light hearted, it's fun, it keeps the mood going. Jokes work too, but just keep it short and funny, sexual too if you got it. It just gives the good vibe and makes it interesting, it's the spice to the meal.

4. Besides the fun part try and really get to know her. I mean the deep questions, about her past, what she wants for the future, what is really important to her...see if u vibe. Of course u should share yourself too, don't always wait for her to ask "how about u?" Sometimes things get emotional and she forgets to ask. And even try to share it first

5. Everyone is different, don't give up too fast. With honesty and openness you can find out what the problem is. I had a girl not want to date me initially cuz of my job, another one thought I'm a player cuz i dressed too well, everyone has their own filters. The most u can do is be honest and ask and take it from there.

6. You never know how the girl is or what she wants. Really, some girls appear really shy but just want a good fuck and to be dominated, some appear wild and talkative and crazy and in bed they have a lot of insecurities. "Listen, i like you and want more from you but of course at your own pace, the only thing i want from this date is for us to have a good time and you to feel secure". Mean what u say and say what u mean. Invite her over to your place and try to move things forward, sometimes she doesn't want and just respectfully back off. And try again.

7. Fit is sexy. Goes for guys and girls. Nothing beats a good body. Having a good body and being healthy is out of the scope of this post, it's a hard process but it's well worth it. Your genes will determine your success but you can still be as good as you can be for your starting point.

8. Tinder apps and stuff. Don't be bitter, it's the worst thing u can be. Also, you're matching/talking to people from a lot of different environments, some with which you'd never interact in a normal setting. A hot girl is just hot, that's it. You don't know if she's mean, dumb, evil etc. Once you know, just politely move on. Adding bad remarks, " my back hurts from carrying this conversation " crap like that doesn't help anyone. Politely tell her you'd like her to put some effort in this conversation or you'd like to get to know her but the one word responses are not helping or stuff like that. Boundaries and openness. If she still is bitchy, move on, you don't know her life, her iq, her problems at home.

9. Make it fun, be excited on the date ( not in a dog wagging it's tail kind of way but more of a happy good mood ) . Dating should be fun, not a need, not a chore. Should be "let's have a great time together" attitude, not badly wanting sex, just to get to know each other and see where it goes.

10. One awesome girl is worth 100 mediocre girls/dates. I's a relative thing, not an absolute thing, so what's awesome for me might not be awesome for you. 1st date i had with a girl was she coming to my place and we drank some whisky, watched the world cup semi-finals, then had sex. Everything easy, all the communication up to that point was fun and honest and after that too. It's very rare but when it happens you'll know it. ( also this was here in my home country, not in Philippines )

11. Know yourself. Most people are kinky. There are books about it and no wonder 50 shades of grey got so much love. There's a huge disconnect between how we want to act and how we have to act because of society. Is it good..is it bad, i'm not the one to say, but i do know most girls love spanking, chocking, hair pulling and a lot even rougher. They finally get to feel submissive in a world that for the most part doesn't let them. Of course, bring it on slowly and talk it out, make her feel comfortable and safe.

I know it's a "lot" of text, but just as my previous post, it's a complicated subject, there are a lot of 300 pages books about it and this is just a simplification. Further reading i'd recommend is Models by Mark Manson, No more mister nice guy ( but take it with a grain of salt, mostly for the boundaries ) Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.

Also, for overall mental health i highly recommend lessening your coffee intake and meditating more and make sleep a priority. Also porn is a big no-no and try to read as much as you can on different topics.

In my last post a lot of people were focusing on Philippines girls, while it's true that it's easier there, the rules are kind of the same. You still need to be a man on a date and in the bedroom, and while it's true that the "normal" girls are easier to get, the higher class girls, like a guy in the last thread said, have the same standards and won't put up with you if you're boring, not in a good mindset, not look good so always do your best.

Oh, my real last post