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4 years later with new results?

EZ36DP · 2015-08-22T14:43:51+00:00

Long story short, I'm coming out of a 4 year relationship during which I've changed a LOT (for good). Gained confidence, lost weight, etc. and...

EZ36DP

August 22, 2015

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Title	4 years later with new results?
Author	EZ36DP
Upvotes	2
Comments	2
Date	August 22, 2015 2:43 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3hz111/4_years_later_with_new_results/
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[–]Morokweng 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You talk about friendzoning as if its something a girl purposefully does to guys that she doesn't like.

A guy gets friendzoned when he's too timid to actually make any moves or risk outright rejection. He somehow thinks that he can have a cordial risk-free friendly conversation with a girl and she'll just magically want to jump on him. No, you have to flirt, show interest, be willing to do something that might result in rejection, i.e. be honest and act in alignment with your intentions. A girl will respond to how you are treating her, and friendly behaviour gets a friendly response.

So if you want to talk to those girls then go ahead, but you have to actually flirt with them and show romantic/sexual interest in them. Personally I don't know why you'd bother when there are so many different girls you could just talk to and start with a clean slate.

Oh and by the way, if you go to those girls that 'friendzoned' you, and tell them that you were secretly pining after them when you were 'friends', expecting them to find that in any way endearing like Hollywood teaches you they should, you're never going to get anywhere with them. Secretly pining after someone for a significant length of time without taking any action is a clear display of a crippling lack of confidence, and that's not attractive.

[–]EZ36DP1 point 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Don't get me wrong, I'm not going for the Hollywood scenario and I know that taking about past feelings (there wasn't even feeling but she was still hot so) is a buzz kill right of the bat.

It's not about secretly pinning after someone but it's about reaching out with people I used to have a lot of fun with but we both went on separate ways.

You put a lot of things on the ice when in a serious long term relationship but being single again and all, I won't feel bad for reaching out to old friends who I haven't talked to in a while to know what's up.

At the end of the day, I honestly couldn't give a fuck it it ends up not going anywhere and we end up just friend again but I might as well try a move if start seeing them again

Edit: but I get your point, flirting and going for it directly is indeed the correct and only answer