5th night out, feeling very demotivated, need some advice..

kilsa · 2016-08-07T08:50:55+00:00

Try going out without the intention of getting laid. I mean, have the intention of getting laid, but its secondary to having a good time.

Also keep escalating, and developing a sexual vibe. Conversational skills are obviously required, but they don't matter as much as you think. Body language and how you speak are much more important than what you say.

Try and not have longer drawn out conversations. In a bar or club setting, I think its better to have multiple short interactions than one long one.

Instead of trying to bring a woman home, you can just ask for her number after getting acquainted. Then you can organise something with her at a later date.

This is more personal opinion, but people reveal their mindset and intentions subconsciously and through body language. They pick up on them subconsciously as well which is how you can sense someone with a creepy vibe (does not necessarily mean they are creepy, their mindset might not be in the right place at that moment). Often, little things influence the vibes you give off even if you don't realise it. e.g I am not a fan of PUA lingo because to me, it makes interacting with women seem more robotic, and you see them as some sort of object than an actual person. This would influence my interactions with women when I pick up.

Also, take a break. Going out for 5 nights straight would take its toll, each day you'll perform worse then the last and each day you'll become more desperate/dejected than the last. It also indicates that you have nothing to do in your life other than trying to get with women. Take the time to recharge. But definitely keep trying, it will come naturally with practice and you'll also learn to shrug off rejection.

Good luck.

IWriteForGroupies · 2016-08-07T08:32:27+00:00

Field report please. What you did, what you said, what they said, in a lot of detail.

MindsEvolve · 2016-08-07T08:15:54+00:00

You're probably on the right track. I'd say keep going while continuing to work on your inner game and general life improvements. You might be close to hitting your "I don't even care anymore" point, which is when you'll start closing. Ask your wing to watch you and see if they have any feedback. Every wing can give you different advice.

P.S. Don't forget to pay attention to your pre-approaching. Walking in with a smile, and saying hi to everyone (depending on the place). In fact, not every place has the same vibes, you might want to figure out how the place works before approaching and see if you can use some environmental tactics. Also, sometimes you get better at approaching at a place that you go to regularly. Your nerves will be much more calm.

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a_shbli · 2016-08-07T13:10:42+00:00

Dress to impress! Then try again

sdf33zzccvv · 2016-08-07T16:36:00+00:00

Attempt, fail, observe, and improve. It's how you get better at most things. 25 failures means 25 learning opportunities. Don't let it get you down just keep trying

and most importantly don't just keep making the same mistakes every time. the better you can identify what went wrong and improve on it, the higher your chances of success in your future attempts

Title	5th night out, feeling very demotivated, need some advice..
Author	BubbleShip
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	August 7, 2016 8:06 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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