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| 2 | Newbie: Today I approached a blonde girl in a mall and she looked at me like I was going to murder her...Don't listen to anyone saying it's her fault. This is the wrong state of mind to get into with girls and start blaming them for things you are doing wrong. You sound like you have anxiety and if that is the case then you probably looked like a serial killer when you came up to her just like that. The biggest mistake in this case wasn't the rejection from her, it's not using that to talk to another girl. Next time this happens go approach another girl quick and notice how much better you do. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 08:54 AM |
| 6 | I'm only going out and doing pickup 2 nights a week as a 19 year old how can I change my life style so I can do it seven times?What kind of a question is this? How would we know how you can switch up your schedule to go out more? Just go out more, man. Every day. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 08:38 AM |
| 1 | Question about shyness and daygameBecause taking a break for a month is just as bad as giving up in your case. How can you stop talking to people for a month and expect to just come back into it smoothly? This is a life long process. Don't take 'breaks', because all that means is you are letting your fear overpower you again. Talk to people every single day for the rest of your life. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Question about shyness and daygameEveryone tells me that shy guys--especially awkward/Aspergian guys--should not do daygame because the likelihood of success is vanishingly small. Have you ever considered forming your own opinion about things instead of eating up uninformed advice from others around you? | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 08:32 AM |
| 4 | Give a 31 year old loner some advice.Yeah, the first thing you should do, buddy, is disregard all these unhealthy and even mentally damaging suggestions in the comments. This is all I see on this sub and it pisses me off to no end: "Go outside, be yourself, get a hobby, do some self improvement, yadda yadda yadda". These are the MOST DESTRUCTIVE THINGS you could possibly do in your situation. Are they bad ideas for a lot of people who have normal functional lives? Hell no. They are great ideas for those people. But not for you, and… | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 08:30 AM |
| 1 | It may sound stupid, but I have no idea how to "score"Dear lord in heaven, use some paragraphs for everyone's sakes! Your lack of organization speaks for your untidy and unorganized brain that cannot handle any form of tidy articulation. Your grasp of Psychology is not only laughable but disgustingly rudimentary. For example that comment about having no free will literally made me laugh out loud at your perception of human psychology. Trying to dig through your clump of feces up there, I can tell you that you still have no idea what you are talking… | /r/seduction | 05/09/16 11:52 AM |
| -1 | How to deal with physical rejection?Wow, and here I was hoping that you'd be calmer when you just woke up. It seems you're still a loose cannon no matter what time of day it is. Listen buddy, I don't know what your deep set issues are, but you need to get over your triggered bullshit, stop downvoting me like a pre teen mincrafter, and accept the fact that in clubs some people get pushy sometimes. I am not making excuses for myself at all. The approaches that I do are all analyzed and improved for next time, however I have seen wit… | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 03:44 PM |
| 0 | losing faith in cold approachI got the impression that they don't bother with cold approach as it's basically impossible! You've got a quitter's attitude. Cold approach is for people with the exterior of a tank. Stop whining about it and improve your approach and methods. It's no big secret that cold approaches are less successful than other methods, but impossible? Not even close. It just takes a certain know how. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 02:25 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with physical rejection?Yeah, sorry haha. I'm just looking to get laid first. You're right, girls in bars aren't long term relationship material. I'm looking to pull a girl on the same night, but it's been a rough few weeks for me. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 12:14 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with physical rejection?Going to a place where girls are getting drunk and looking to get laid is not a good place to get laid? Thanks for the downvote, but your statement isn't making a lot of sense here, buddy. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 12:02 PM |
| -3 | How to deal with physical rejection?On top of that there are girls that are in a bad mood to start with and are pushy/aggressive with their rejections. What's so hard to believe about that? The idiot up there is negging me for saying there are physically aggressive people in a club. LOL. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 12:00 PM |
| -1 | How to deal with physical rejection?Well, I don't know where you've been, but i've seen plenty of guys come on too aggressively and get pushed away. Including myself. It's a fact of life when switching up the approach methods. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Not getting anywhere with anything, what now?Thanks for this, it was very helpful. I'll work on reading up on Body language, and certainly wouldn't mind a PM regarding effective meditation. I already do deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation on a daily basis, but I feel like I need something a bit stronger to calm me down in those moments where my anxiety just overwhelms me! | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 07:16 AM |
| 2 | Not getting anywhere with anything, what now?Music, philosophy, coding, reading, I play an instrument, I work out regularly, and a whole bunch of other things. I just have severe social anxiety and lord knows it makes me look like someone who doesn't have a solid frame when in reality i'm very strong core wise. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 03:27 AM |
| 2 | An acquaintance of mine is terrible at club-game. But that got me thinking, what is the *correct* way to approach club game?Buying a girl a drink and expecting to get laid is like jumping out of a fucking plane without a parachute and expecting to land safely. It IS wrong and if you do it you're setting yourself up for disappointment. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 01:23 AM |
| 0 | How to deal with physical rejection?I have muscle, I just don't want to get jumped or kicked out of a bar and get my shirt ripped for some jackass who gave me a little harmless push while he was drunk. The girl was a 6/10 too, so none of it was worth the trouble. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 01:20 AM |
| -3 | How to deal with physical rejection?No, it was only two girls out of like 20 who did that. Some girls are just aggressive and sick of being hit on. I've seen it before. The rest talk to me, shit test me with 'I have a boyfriend', and then reject me. So that's what I need to work on. | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Can anyone else talk better to beautiful women after jerking off?By realizing that you don't need to prove anything to anyone but yourself. | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 04:01 PM |
| 5 | Can anyone else talk better to beautiful women after jerking off?The reason you are awkward with girls is because you are insecure and not sure of yourself. No amount of semen coming out of your body is going to change that. | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 03:40 PM |
| 5 | Got crushed a the club... need advice3 rejections? I'm so sorry to hear about this tremendous failure. I've seen some bad cases on this subreddit, but your story truly makes me depressed. To think that after approaching 3 girls, and got rejected 3 times, and somehow had the bravery to come on here and tell everyone you tragic tale of effort that went down the drain. To think that after all these approaches, all three of them, and all this practice you put into it and yourself, you got shot down 3 whole times is absolutely mind blow… | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 03:38 PM |
| 0 | 21m virgin. Can't escalate and just want to get laid by the end of the school year, have some issues to set aside.LMFAO. I can see the burn from here. | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Losing virginity to one-night standLol, I need to join a fraternity then, because i'm sure as hell having a hard time flying solo at the bars/clubs. | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Losing virginity to one-night standYour entire post reeks of insecurity about how others think of you. Maybe you should start working on yourself before you start trying to get laid at parties. Your strong language, especially terms like 'weirdo', 'retarded' and 'loser' shows very fragile mentality at this point in time. However, I am ready to get this over with. Any advice for losing virginity on a one night stand? This isn't a blood test. You don't 'get it over with'. You go out there and talk to girls, and then get laid. Read … | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 02:47 PM |
| 1 | It may sound stupid, but I have no idea how to "score"Lol, what are you going on about? Everything you're saying goes against common sense. the 'all people are different' state of mind isn't meant only for pickup. It's meant to realize that generalizations are for weak minds. You don't need to know everyone 100% inside and out, you just need to realize that categorizing people into huge groups is only going to slow you and your brain down. No one generalizes in psychology. Do you know how many variations there are to a single illness? Why do you th… | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 08:29 AM |
| 1 | It may sound stupid, but I have no idea how to "score"You don't say to a woman "Let's have sex". Even though that specific sentence might work in very specific situations, it's still an inept thing to say. This isn't a direct statement, it's nearly a desperate request. You seem to have directness and impulsively saying the first thing on your mind confused together. Being direct with girls means you aren't playing mind games and can frame what you want in a smoother way. Also, the way you talk suggests you speak for ALL girls at once, which is ludi… | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 12:54 AM |
| 15 | It may sound stupid, but I have no idea how to "score"Getting laid often is nothing more than having a solid frame, nearly 0 insecurities, and the ability to effectively communicate your intentions to a girl you want to sleep with. Advice: Don't get lost in the countless 'methods' on here that often contradict one another and leave you scratching your head and even more depressed. This is all you need: Go talk to people, learn how to stop being anxious/insecure, and be direct and confident. Also, don't use the word score when you're talking about g… | /r/seduction | 01/09/16 05:46 AM |
| 4 | Done over 100 approachesThis is what I hate about this place. There's tons of helpful hints and things that will make you a better person in general, but when it comes to getting laid, the advice boils down to this every time: "Oh bro, just approach as many girls as you can. Do hundreds. You'll get laid guaranteed and become a better human being!!!!" After you do that and realize the only thing that's changed is your tolerance of being rejected and pushed around by girls and guys and gotten a reputation as a fuckboy, y… | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 11:18 AM |
| 3 | Do girls like to be chased by men?You people overthinking shit cracks me up. You do know the whole point of this subreddit is to help you improve your mindset, get rid of your insecurities, and learn how to effectively read body language, right? If you learn how to read body language, you'll know everything. You'll also be able to get laid. | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Is it ever ok to tell a girl you want to kiss them?What do YOU think? Is it OK for you show a girl you need her approval to go for a kiss? | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 06:42 AM |
| 5 | How often/many do I approach?10 an hour? What the fuck you think this is, minimum wage? Stop setting a number and go approach as many girls as you can without losing your frame. | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 06:41 AM |
| 3 | Seriously, I really just don't know what to sayThis is why I fear rejection, not because I care what she thinks or anything. This is how I know you're not doing as well as you think you are. If you're still afraid of being rejected, no matter what the reason is, then you've still got a long way to go. The fact that you're taking half the advice in this subreddit and placing it into the 'manipulation' category in your head instead of the 'self improvement' category is another red flag that pretty much guarantees you're still at the beginning … | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 06:39 AM |
| 6 | Still can't maintain eye contactI feel like this is a bit of a cop out... You really think the people into seduction get into it because they have social skills from the get go? It's not a cop out. Believe it or not, it's not all black and white. It's not just 'socially masterful' and 'need help from /r/seduction'. There are layers, and those with social anxiety fall FAR behind regular people who are having difficulty getting laid because of their technique. It's not technique that's holding me back, it's literally the way my … | /r/seduction | 27/08/16 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Any shorter dudes in the house? Looking to step up my game and could use all the advice I can get!I'm 5'3 and girls use me as a barstool sometimes :c | /r/seduction | 27/08/16 11:14 AM |
| 17 | Still can't maintain eye contactI'm naturally introverted Has nothing to do with introversion, man. Introversion is an orientation. There are some introverts scoring more pussy than Brad Pitt out there. You have social anxiety. I can relate too, and a lot of the stuff on this subreddit is extremely hard to implement for people like us because we lack basic social skills that most people have from the get go. | /r/seduction | 27/08/16 11:04 AM |
| 2 | Started at 18, finally pulled in the same night at 23This is a beautiful fucking thread. You can tell it's coming from the heart. Nice articulation and good job getting laid buddy! | /r/seduction | 26/08/16 02:30 PM |
| 2 | 6th night out, feeling like I got the life sucked right out of me..What was happening when they laughed at you? How were you opening them or trying to open them? What exactly were you saying and doing? I will admit those were the ones that I opened when my anxiety was highest. So I looked and projected VERY awkwardly and probably very insecurely. My openings all start by me introducing myself, asking the other person to introduce themselves and then making a simple observation and opening up a chance to converse. Problem is, when i'm anxious, the pitch and tone… | /r/seduction | 13/08/16 08:56 AM |
| 1 | 5th night out, feeling very demotivated, need some advice..Well, a lot of rejections happen right off the bat, but for the ones i've had conversations with, I always start off with "Hey, i'm xxxx, how are you tonight" or alternatively (when I want to switch it up) "You seem like a fun person, and I wanted to come talk to you". Some of them introduce themselves at which point I ask them what's going on, or if they are having fun, or I comment on their attire and let them talk about themselves a bit more, at which point their friends pull them away or I r… | /r/seduction | 07/08/16 08:45 AM |
| 1 | How to prevent being a part of the wallpaper if I can't dance?Well, let me tell you, tonight I went out AGAIN with my original wingman and started hitting on chicks at the club after I had a few beers and was buzzed. Honestly, even though I talked to some, I didn't know how to escalate at all! For example, I would lean in, introduce myself, let them introduce themselves, talk about basic stuff for a second, but I have no clue how to direct the convo towards going back to her place! This one chick I talked to left because she was getting the wrong vibe from… | /r/seduction | 06/08/16 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..I deleted the thread so I wouldn't have to hear more White Knighting. It's pathetic and is a headache. Still, i'd take pussy over White Knighting ANY DAY. Great job on not denying it anymore, bud. Embrace who you really are. I guess we need doormats like you in life. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..I mean, instead of stalking me, be a man and just say what you need to say on here. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:51 AM |
| -1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Plus, from a purely "pick up" perspective, so to speak, she insulted him, he reacted, she swung at him, he reacted. You're supposed to hold frame, and his was so weak the breeze from her missed punch knocked it over. LMFAO, ok. I give up. You're too stupid to form a picture of what was going on. Sometimes two different groups of people (white knights and logical people) come to the same conclusion (don't hit a girl who just missed a punch at you in public) for different reasons. Now you're linki… | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..You'd be surprised how many White Knights linger on here and try to change. Case in point being you. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..From 'manchild' to 'odd'. I feel like we are making progress. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Nice argument. But wait: You're the downvoting type. Downvote or not, you're doing the exact same thing by bitching about me defending myself. Don't know what kind of girls you surround yourself with, but either they are midgets or you are the size of a quarterback. For the rest of humanity, some women can punch pretty hard. I'm sorry you're too dumb to have noticed that. Taking a beatdown from a random chick is grown up? Christ! I've been doing this wrong. Let me get a 'WELCOME' sign on my ches… | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:11 AM |
| 0 | Night 3 report, got attacked..But yeah, you're right. The things you're pretending I'm saying are pretty retarded. Seeing as I quoted you, I don't think anyone is pretending anything. It's word for word, and the reason you are leaving is because you know you've been beat. I clearly showed you how stupid your argument and white knighting is. Everything you've said is by DEFINITION white knighting. I'm not pretending anything LOL. It's pretty sad to see someone like you who presents a laughable argument with the dumbest logic … | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:03 AM |
| 1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Since you want to be spoon fed, let me help you out. I mean, your most recent comment is still being irrationally defensive for no reason because you can't figure out that the reason you're so angry about this is because of your OWN issues, not mine. Here you go, let me know if you want me to break it down for you syllable for syllable too, because you seem like the kind of guy who might need a little special ed: Fucking hell, control yourself. See how you started off? Angry and unstable. Just l… | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 09:49 AM |
| 0 | Night 3 report, got attacked..I've been slapped by crazy drunk girls before, never in a million years would I lay a hand on them in response. Your response was reckless. She sounds like a nasty piece of work herself that I'm in no doubt, but reacting with anger to any crap a woman gives you is immature and wrong, not to mention a poor showcase of game. Alot of the guys here some to be applauding your reaction which I find to be the very distasteful part of PUA, you're lucky the dancefloor didn't turn into a lynch mob. How ab… | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 09:31 AM |
| 0 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Thanks bro, i'm trying to deal with all the negativity being thrown at me for no reason. All I did was try to laugh my way out of her insults and then literally defended myself and walked out of the club and calmed down. Your comment really helps, I appreciate it. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 09:12 AM |
| 0 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Also, don't swing at women. I'm a huge believer that if a woman wants to swing at a man, she can get beat down like a man. However, until perception changes to reflect this, it isn't worth the jail time. That's fair enough. Better than all the guys on here downvoting me for defending myself, anyways. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 09:11 AM |
| -2 | Night 3 report, got attacked..LMFAO! You know, at this point, idiots like you are just making me laugh. I posted in this SR a few times before and I got smart people giving legit advice. You, on the other hand, and your armchair psychologist approach is literally cringe worthy. How can you possibly say I over reacted when your comment REEKS of over reaction? If you could restrain yourself for less than a moment or so, you would have realized all I was doing was defending myself when she threw a punch at me. If you're one of … | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Honestly man, most girls, even if I approached the wrong way, would smile and just tell me to move on. This one was very special. I have never seen so much hostility coming from a person right off the bat. I guess I need to empathize a little with the shit she must have gone through to become this angry, but what she said to me was uncalled for. I was just smiling and trying to have some fun. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 07:41 AM |
| 2 | Night 3 report, got attacked..I'm actually in Ontario, but I hear ya! I was just surprised at how many guys rushed at me as soon as I retaliated. It was like half the dance floor was empty in 2 seconds flat because guys were trying to swing at me. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 07:34 AM |
| -4 | Night 3 report, got attacked..You're completely out of your mind. All I did was defend myself when she tried to punch me in the face. The way you're talking right now goes against everything you are trying to preach. There's a thin line between good advice and retarded advice. You're giving me the latter. Also, since I wasn't arrested on property I am guessing that your assumptions don't even fit in with this context. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 07:21 AM |
| 4 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Let me tell you something. When I made this post I was still a little buzzed so I left out some details. When she leaned in and told me this right off the bat, I joked with her a little bit and she also said I looked like I was 9 and needed to go back home to mommy. I was joking around until she also told me to go fuck myself. Edit: I know what shit testing looks like. This chick was ANGRY right from the beginning. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 07:00 AM |
| 2 | Night 3 report, got attacked..TBH, this is EXACTLY how I felt. If she didn't want to talk to me, she could have said it nicely, and I would have moved on IMMEDIATELY. The fact that she leaned in and tried to crush my motivation is just cruel and a little sociopathic IMHO. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 06:42 AM |
| -2 | Night 3 report, got attacked..Alright, can we chill out here? I mentioned I was a little buzzed and that's why my feelings were amplified man. Why would I post here if I didn't want to learn from my mistakes and avoid this situation next time? I appreciate the feedback, but seeing as I calmed down when the bouncers intervened and left without making a scene, I don't think telling me to go see a shrink is fair. I get that elbowing the chick wasn't the right thing to do, trust me, i'm just trying to prevent myself from being t… | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 06:39 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with rejection from a girl you put in effort to...Two things are possibly going on here. You're either coming at the girls with no regard for their state, which is going to lead to shit like this. This is interesting. Can you guide me somewhere where I can learn more about states and how I can influence her state indirectly? | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 01:03 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with rejection from a girl you put in effort to...Is it really? Or do you feel a bite each time? Yeah, Rejection hurts. But not as much as that last chick though. Maybe it's because I put in a lot of effort into the last chick. The other girls I chatted up who rejected me didn't seem to chip away at my mood like the last one did. How was this girl any different from the others? Also, you're leaving out how you approached these girls. What exactly you were saying and doing. How was she different? She was outside, by herself, and no one else was … | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 12:36 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with rejection from a girl you put in effort to...So when a girl openly rejects me, I should never take it to heart and just use it constructively to be better the next time I approach someone? I find it hard to not take it personally sometimes when they size me up and just give me a disgusted look. It's demeaning. | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 08:01 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with rejection from a girl you put in effort to...But am I supposed to work towards shrugging off other people judging me for my bad game and looking like an idiot trying to game certain chicks? Because that's the biggest thing these days that stops me. For example, if i'm at a bar and a chick is sitting amidst several guys i'm actually SCARED to go and try to chat her up because I know my game is fragile and I am afraid of being judged by others, including people who are in that bar most of the time (like the bouncers, waiteresses, etc.) | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 08:00 AM |
| 5 | How to actually pull a girl?Your comment gave me cancer. I am going to try and pick up the nurses. | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Second night ever, question..I'll do that next time for sure, but I found myself running out of conversation topics since she was a stranger to me! I asked her what her name was and introduced myself and she told me what she does and what she was doing here, etc. But then, I had no idea what to say and things were becoming awkward, and that's why I left. Could you give me a few specific tips for next time, bro? | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 11:08 AM |
| 16 | First night out ever...I'll keep trying! | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 09:25 AM |
| 24 | First night out ever...I went up to several chicks chilling at the bar AND dancing on the dance floor. I tried to use some wit and variations on 'hey, i'm xxxx, how are you?' and some of them talked to me for a bit before their boyfriends or whatever came and took charge, and some of them straight up said 'no', and some of them pushed me away physically, and some of them smiled and said they were lesbian, and some of them said it was a girls night out. Lots of rejections, but lots of warm social contact as well, so i'… | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 09:18 AM |
| 3 | What is the most important thing you've learned about game?Resilience is the key to getting what you want. | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 12:36 PM |
| 3 | 9 Ways To Overcome Your Fear of Rejection (Introverts Only)No problem. A lot of people confuse introversion with shyness. If you're introverted, you'd be able to tell by the way you feel like you are 'drained' after doing intense social activities for a short period of time. If you're just anxious to be around people in general, or can't talk to strangers at all, then you might have anxiety or shyness disorder. | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 12:26 PM |
| 5 | 9 Ways To Overcome Your Fear of Rejection (Introverts Only)Introversion is an orientation. So is Extroversion. You can google for more info, but basically being introverted doesn't have anything to do with being shy. An Introverted person can be just as well spoken and confident as an extroverted person, even more in a lot of cases. They simply have different hobbies which fit better with their orientation, and being in loud places with lots of people, like bars, clubs, etc. are usually a big no-no. MOST people fall somewhere in the middle of the spectr… | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 12:16 PM |
| 7 | 9 Ways To Overcome Your Fear of Rejection (Introverts Only)Why is this directed at introverts only? Are you another retard who doesn't know the difference between introversion and shyness? | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 11:56 AM |
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