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7 Approach Mistakes That Get You Rejected

gradcasanova

May 17, 2019

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Title	7 Approach Mistakes That Get You Rejected
Author	gradcasanova
Upvotes	5
Comments	2
Date	May 17, 2019 2:31 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/bprzvu/7_approach_mistakes_that_get_you_rejected/
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[–]gradcasanova[S] 6 points7 points8 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Here's the TL;DW:

Avoiding these 7 approach mistakes will help you hook a girl's interest and get her attracted.

In the vid, I provide examples and some advice on how to fix each mistake. Here are the mistakes:

The hesitation: Waiting too long to approach her. You either psych yourself out and don't approach at all, or you're overly nervous when you do approach her and it screws everything up

The quick ejection: leaving the approach too quickly because you don't think she's interested.

Weak body language: If you slouch your shoulders, have your chin down, and a weak stance, you're going to look unconfident and she'll reject you

Getting all up in her personal space TOO quickly: Sometimes this can be okay if you're at a bar or club and have some instant chemistry, but otherwise give her some space at the beginning. Getting too touchy feely right away, or standing too close will make her uncomfortable, because she doesn't know you yet.

Missing the hooks: Girls will give you "hooks", AKA things they talk about in conversation (like food, travel, interests) that give you a chance to dive deeper and connect. But a lot of guys miss these and get stuck in small talk

Speaking too softly, or too loudly: if she can't hear you at the outset, you're pretty much cooked. Talk slower and louder than you think you need to, as this will help you command her attention.

The needy mindset: assuming she's gonna shoot you down, or you'll be wasting her time if you approach, versus assuming she's going to be attracted to you

[–]readonlyuser 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

These are great! A few additions from Tyler Durden's 25 Points:

1) FIDGETY MOVEMENTS AND TIGHT SHOULDERS AND TAKING YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY OR BEING TOO BUSINESSLIKE OR "SOPHISTICATED" (not laughing or being relaxed) = very visible subconsious (or conscious) self-doubt, overcompensating through non-relaxed state, where you're prepared to deal with anything that could happen. Ever met someone who doesn't blink when you talk to them?

2) TALKING TOO FAST = worried that people will stop listening to you unless you get out something that will interest them before they leave

3) LAUGHING AT YOUR OWN JOKES = covering up that you aren't affected that others didn't laugh, and social nervousness

4) SAYING "RIGHT" OR "YOU KNOW" AFTER STATEMENTS = seeking validation that what you said was true, or saying it because others aren't

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7) MOVING YOUR HANDS AROUND WHILE YOU TALK = trying to keep the attention of the group (sometimes can be cool, but most often a form of qualifying yourself)

8) LEANING IN or 'PECKING' = too eager to talk.. NEVER lean in no matter how loud the environment is MAKE HER LEAN IN or just leave but NEVER lean in or "peck" as its also called.

9) FACING BODY/FEET TOWARDS HER BEFORE SHE EARNED IT = trying to gain rapport with her too eagerly.

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19) BEING BOLD INSTEAD OF CONFIDENT = that you know that you can't pick her up, so you compensate with self-defeating actions so that the snub can be on "your terms". Saying "I'm sexy right?" or "baby I want some of that" or even just approaching when the logistics are totally unrealistic is too eager, because a CONFIDENT person wouldn't feel the NEED to say these kinds of things.. these things are symptoms of OVERCOMPENSATION for INSECURITIES..