So I have been with a decent number of girls since I started this self improvement thing after I got out of my first long term relationship years ago.

However, only one of those girls I felt any sort of real connection with/loved/whatever you want to call it. Many wanted to date me, but I never felt a thing with them. Due to this, it's given me a case of oneitis (we still hook up occasionally after breaking up, but I let her treat me worse than I should). How do I overcome this scarcity mindset?

I know I can go out and get a girl, but I'm not entirely positive I can meet a girl I feel something for again.