This sub, and some videos recommended within, did it for me!

So last night I went to a speed dating event. The way it works is you pay $25-$35 to go and if you're seen as a good candidate (which basically means "if multiple people choose you") they invite you back for a future event of your choice at no cost. I did it a few months ago and actually hit it off with a few women and was invited back for free.

So last night was that free night.

Supposed to arrive at 7:45 because it starts at 8 but I remembered that most of the girls didn't show up until the last minute last time, so I waited until like 7:55 to show up. So I walk in and it's just three 4' tables pushed together (in the back of a very nice restaurant/bar) and all the guys are at one end and three girls at the other. (We later found out that like 6 girls bailed. The first time I did it, it was ten guys and ten girls). Instead of sitting down with the guys who were bitching about barely any girls and whatnot, I went right to the other end and sat next to one. This sub has taught me that other guys are too afraid. Just GO FOR IT. So I made conversation with all three girls focusing on the one I thought was the cutest. Well at the end of the night, she and I were two of the last people there. She ended up offering her number and I walked her to her car and she hugged me and that was it. When I went back inside the organizer lady slipped up and told me that the girl and I both put each other as our number one choices. Sweeeeet.

Before I got home she had already texted me and we texted for a bit before bed.

This morning I texted her a joke continuing last night's convo as my 'good morning' text and when she responded laughing at it I asked her out tonight and she said yes. We texted for a bit to figure out a time and place.

So I go home, trim up, wash my hair and redo it, change my clothes, and head out.

She chose the place, which was super cool. It was closer to where she lives, which is what I wanted so we could go back to HER place if it went that way.

The restaurant/bar was really cool and we tried different wines and beers and just had fun with it. I asked if she wanted to do something after and after 20 minutes of us both Googling around and trying to go to a place that ended up being closed, we decided to go bowling. I ended up covertly covering dinner and she thought it was really cute.

So we get to the bowling alley and she insists on paying for it (also super cool). I oblige and we start bowling.

This is where this sub comes in:

I remember reading over and over, "she's out with you. That's means she's interested in you. Get out of your comfort zone and make sure you're touching her. Rub her arm. Make a silly gesture." I even ended up betting her to give me a kiss on the cheek if I got a strike. Then I didn't get the strike and had to play it cool. Lol. She gave me one later when I got a spare though lol. Not long after that she was touching my back and my arms and getting handsy in high fives without letting go.

I drove her back to her car and we chatted for a minute and when it was clearly time to get going she says "I mean, guess I can at least give you a hug" and we hugged and when I went to let go she kept holding on so I just whispered that we need to do this again soon and as I was pulling back we ended up playfully kissing for a couple minutes!

I've been on 10 or so first dates since summer 2017 and probably 6/10 got me to a second date and both that went to a third ended up telling me something along the lines of "I just didn't feel sexual tension" and ended it. It sucked because we had a blast together and I thought we had a connection and then I realized, holy shit. I wasn't flirting with her, I was being her friend. I never touched her or broke that personal space bubble. I never whispered a joke in her ear. Nothing. And I really blew it with some smoking hot women that also didn't seem spoiled and/or shallow. I knew I wasn't gonna let that happen with the next girl that seems like she might be actually compatible.

Thanks to this sub, I was able to cross that wall tonight and set the mood to being flirty. I was able to be assertive in where we went and what we did without giving her a bunch if options and killing the vibe. I was able to show masculinity and take control in multiple situations.

So even though this might not make it to a third or fourth date I learned a lot and was able to finally see what works and what doesn't for me and how I present myself.

Update (day 1): Hung out and Netflix'd it all day yesterday at her place. Honestly it was pretty cool just cozying up in our comfy clothes on a cold day and just chilling. Seems like there might definitely be some chemistry there.

Update (day 2): hung out again after work today (two days in a row). I asked what her favorite veggie was and showed up with wine, chicken, and potatoes and we made dinner together while listening to music and goofing off. Finished the Netflix series we start yesterday and off home I went. Not sure if I'll update more, but we are both clearly into each other and it's looking like this is going to continue.

Looks like if you just be yourself, but still grow some balls and just keep trying, it really does work lol.